She doesn’t have to have “the most amazing” ECs. That’s the same limited high school (and some CC) thinking that makes kids think they have to cure cancer.
And good for her, showing 3 years of commitment, which is as long as she’s been in high school. 3 years out of 3.
“I see now that there isn’t much help here beyond write down a summer job and member of 2 clubs as well as a jv sport.” I said to get her out in the local community now.
Nor are we bitter. In fact, you could post this on the high school forum and get lots of youthful advice from other kids waiting for their own results to come in. If you think they know, go for it. But as an example, you think she needs a “defining EC.” And maybe she doesn’t. Adcoms will look for the actual choices and consistency. Not some one-time camp you, as a senior, think is rare and unusual, a gem in the crown. She could go work with kids or the needy or some program tomorrow, be able to show a year of that next December. But no, you think she needs a one-time camp counselor experience, next summer.
You cannot compare yourself as some example. You seem to be a recruited athlete. Entirely different.
If you want to help her, get her to read up on these target colleges, not ask her to go with hearsay, yours or anyone else’s (eg, the comment about D3 that you “heard.”) Let her see what they look for, how she matches. Learn what it IS that adcoms want to see in the essay.
Nice to be a friend, but be the right sort.