@ny4mom, thanks for posting your experience. Did you run a net price calculator beforehand and what number did it give you? I hope they will consider your appeal and it ends up affordable for you.
Do you happen to know the application/merit deadline for Misericordia?
The OP stated that Duquesne was the daughter’s first choice, but tuition and r&b would be $50,000, after the $12,000 merit it would still cost $38,000. So I was trying to come up with another (similar) PA school that offers a 5 yr program and might still accept applications/give merit and will be less in cost. I thought Misericordia might be that school, since the tuition and r&b comes in at around $42k and if she got the same merit as your son and OOS grant then that would subtract $16k, resulting in $26k.
There are also private schools in NY like D’Youville (catholic), Daemen, Wagner, I don’t know if the OP’s daughter applied to any of these and don’t know the deadlines.