@NoKillli Not everyone on here is prestige worshipping. Just as @TiggerDad is unwilling for his children to deny who they are for college admissions, we refuse to deny our beliefs (based on what we truly worship) and what we value (not discussing consumerism) to fund an elite piggybank.
Fwiw, our non-Asian, 4.0 math/physics very non-elite UG institution grad is now at a top grad school. All of our adult kids have individually achieved their personal goals.
I had typed the above earlier before my coffee and saved it as a draft debating on how to articulate the rest of my thoughts. Came back after coffee and @PurpleTitan had posted in the interim. Exactly. Great post. Said exactly what I was thinking, but better.