<p>I think that by the time the kid is an adult, they should be able to make the decision pretty much without the binding input of their parents. Now the parents certainly deserve a good explanation for why they should put their money towards a particular place, and should have the authority to veto financially impossible colleges <em>COUGH OP</em>, but the parent isn’t the one going to college.</p>
<p>I would say 100 percent student with parental (veto power) input if parents are footing the bill. However, so much does depend on the financial details.</p>
<p>Sometimes a student has his/her heart set on a school and it would be a very bad financial match for the young person (too many loans required). I think that the parent should advise a child to not attend the school. </p>
<p>I think that you have been over and over this Stohare. Enjoy your visit to NYC. Clear your head. Make a pros and cons list for your decision.</p>
<p>Ah, these ED sagas make me so sad and annoyed. It seems GC should explain things better. I’ve done enough CC reading to conclude that very few students (those with strong school prefernce and unlimited finances) should go the ED route. </p>
<p>Any parents with personal experience willing to start a new “Parents” thread? Something like… “ED - Just say No” or perhaps a gentler “Why you need to be very careful about ED”? </p>
<p>This is the season that students are likely to start thinking ED. They need to know the pros/cons from a general standpoint. The warning are interwoven into many college and financial threads, but more warnings couldn’t hurt.</p>
<p>oh boy that was a great response.
good catch, too.</p>
<p>I’m surprised this thread is still going and developing. No final word yet it seems on the actual fall plans for stohare or the actual OP?</p>
<p>Two comments for stohare. First, King College <em>never</em> sounded like a good fit academically and it is too newly accredited in my opinion. Not worth the risk.</p>
<p>Second, while stohare and mom are welcome to turn up their noses at community colleges, the reality is that it is a viable option. <em>Many</em> bright students go to CC, excel, take honors classes and end up transferring into schools far better than their first round of applications and acceptances. It <em>does</em> take some swallowing of pride for some to consider this route - I honestly think that stohare and parent are taking one of the <em>best</em> routes financially <em>and</em> academically off the table too prematurely.</p>
<p>A third thing to consider is that sometimes two people can start making a series of bad decisions, especially if both people involved are unwittingly bolstering each other’s blind spots. Student wants to go to a NYC based college no matter what (or how stupid the actual college is in terms of a bad fit) and is secretly relieved that Mom says “NO CC” because it keeps NYC alive. And Mom wants to (for sake of an example) avoid any stigma attached to CC even though money is a serious issue and is glad to be making her college aged son/daughter happy at nearly “any” cost – yet this could ruin her financially.</p>
<p>I am saying that if you can get a level headed trusted family friend to join in on your decision making it may help clarify issues. It seems that while stohare is a very smart and polite person that much of the advice being shared here is not very effective so far.</p>
<p>how much of a college decision do you think should be a parent or students decision.</p>
<p>If the parents are paying 100% of the bill, then they can have a lot of say.</p>
<p>If the parents are only paying some and are requiring the student to take out large loans, then they should have NO or LITTLE say. They should not be FORCING a student to take out large loans. That is irresponsible parenting. </p>
<p>I hope the West Virginia thing works out. That sounds like one of the best options right now. For someone who is considering law school later, minimizing debt is the best idea.</p>
<p>And, if you think that Indiana is all white and the same politically, then you haven’t ever lived in Hammond or Gary. Indiana is quite mixed politically and racially when you’re in the Chicago suburbs of Indiana.</p>
<p>Where is stohare,
What did you decide?</p>
<p>Yes, where are Stohare and Julian? No matter where, those who have contributed to this thread would like to know how your fall semester and future plans are taking shape.</p>
<p>I PM’d stohare. He told me that he found a way to make NYU work, so he is going there instead of TKC.</p>
<p>Stohare has a blog where this month he posted his fall schedule at NYU and talks about already having applied for internships and work study in NYC. So he is definitely going to NYU as fabrizio pointed out.</p>
<p>Anyone know whatever happened with juliang23?</p>
<p>Yeah. I wonder how Julian is doing…</p>
<p>Last post was July on this thread:
<a href=“http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/nyu-2014/946053-room-suitemate-info.html[/url]”>http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/nyu-2014/946053-room-suitemate-info.html</a>
Looks like Julian was still planning on NYU</p>