So i just finished my first semester at uni. And all i discovered was that a few people like me a little bit and everyone else just hates me or ignores me or whatever. I try to be as friendly as i can but it doesnt seem to work.
Im kind of the smart nerd kid at uni i feel bad for losing grades while others are just happy to pass the cours!
We have a forum for freshmen questions and last week i asked if i could get my grade checked coz i got 98 out of a 100 but im sure that i aced the test and i shouls probably get a full mark.
Once i posted that, every other freahman out there even people who i bearly know or dont even know was like arent you satisfied with your grade and that i shouldnt be asking about such thing and i shouldnt brag about it (i didnt mention the grade in the post itself someone asked me and i replied with the mark and all of a sudden people tell me that i need to stop braging about my grade and that i shouldnt act like im better than them, etc… )
I feel that me tsking care of studying and grades has a huge role in getting people to hate me but im still not sure what im doing wrong. Any suggestions ???
You don't have to be friends with everyone. It's good that a few people like you "a little bit" and fine that most people just ignore you; it's not so much that they hate you as it is that they don't know you. Being friendly is good, but don't try to force yourself on people by being overly friendly. That will make things worse. Just let your relationships form and grow naturally.
Asking a professor for a regrade is something that you should ask the professor privately. It is understandable that students would think that you're bragging, depending on how you worded your original post ("I was wondering if I could get my grade checked because I'm sure that I aced the test and should get a full mark" does sound a little presumptuous at face value).
Don't tell other students your grades, even if they ask. Given the original reaction, it's likely that they just wanted to know so that they could justify criticizing you and saying that you're bragging. In any case, it's none of their business.
The problem doesn't seem to be that you are driven to get perfect grades. The problem is that you're publicizing it. As a fellow perfectionist, I realize that what seems like a catastrophic grade to me is perfectly acceptable to other people. I have to check myself when I want to complain about how poorly I'm doing, because if I don't, other people will have no problems checking me. It's like being a supermodel complaining to everyone that you're ugly; it seems like a veiled insult to other people, and it seems like you only want constant reassurance that you're perfect.
Guys we don’t deal with A’s and stuff here we only deal with numbers and the 2 marks would eventually effect my GPA and I do care about 2 marks!. And when I posted my question in my uni’s forum it was without talking about how much I got or about me getting a full grade it was just (can I get my finalexam regarded and what’s the process) just that !
Kids call this “grade grubbing” and it is frowned upon. If you must, just ask the teacher, not other kids how you can get the extra 2pts! PS teachers hate grubbers too.
My only advice for you is to stop caring what other people think. The fact that you care what others think about you and you are allowing it to ruin your self esteem shows that you have a little bit of maturing to do. Mature and responsible adults ideas define themselves, they don't let others dictate their lives.