<p>why can’t you put anything in the drop down tabs for the textbook part on the bookstore website? I try to put a term in to see which books i need but it just says select term, it doesn’t give me any options, any reason to why that is?</p>
<p>Neato, the E Book rule is that “weapons, firearms, or air guns of any sort, including BB guns” are not allowed. I don’t believe there’s anything specific about knives, and presumably a letter-opener would be different from a machete. Check with a faculty member or Campus Safety once you’re in the dorm. skimilk, please don’t tell people that they can just hide prohibited items!! Rules are in place for your safety. The rule on posters is no more than 50 square feet. </p>
<p>gabiiwoz, I don’t know why the bookstore website is not working; it should let you pick the term, but it doesn’t. I expect it’ll start working soon.</p>
<p>Thanks PEAteacher. I’m thinking that I’ll just make up a little tool kit for him. If he brings his bike, he’ll need some things and it’s nearly impossible to change the batteries in anything without unscrewing miniscule phillips head screws.</p>
<p>(This is the one thing my husband says he really could have used when he was at BS. )</p>
<p>A parent of an alumnus said that Exeter discourages people of the same color or racial background from hanging together? Is this true? I understand why this would makes sense and I have never purposely grouped with people of the same “background” as me and was definitely not planning on doing it there, but I was just wondering.</p>
<p>Does Exeter have a zero-tolerance policy? It was kind of abtruse in the E-book.</p>
<p>If that is true, why does PEA (and every other school) have clubs specifically for students of one particular nationality and/or ethnicity?</p>
<p>Go cogitate on that for a bit. :)</p>
<p>makes sense. exeter is really proud of its racial background, and it would be useful discourage people with the same racial background hanging out together.
i believe that the clubs are to teach other students more about different cultures…</p>
<p>brazilian, I think you misunderstand. Exeter and every other school that I know of ENCOURAGES students of differing backgrounds to interact. It is one of the attractions of boarding school. </p>
<p>I was merely pointing out the contradiction inherent in saying that they discourage self-segregation while sponsering self-segregating clubs. I meant it as a very light comment, because EVERY school does this. </p>
<p>Personally, I don’t see a thing wrong with having clubs for kids with the same ethnic background, provided other kids are made to feel welcome at them (and I think they are). Certain cultures have distinct traditions and foods and I imagine such clubs could provide a sanctuary of sorts for the homesick and the international students especially, who could speak their mother tongue in an environment where English isn’t expected.</p>
<p>I find it kind of humorous, that’s all…it’s like we’re all the same but we’re different. I am intrigued by the paradox and believe it’s worth considering.</p>
<p>So brazilian, don’t worry so much. I’m pretty sure that as long as you don’t define yourself by your national origin, nobody else will either.</p>
<p>Apply away!!!</p>
<p>*edit: That’s strange. The post that I was replying to seems to have disappeared. Did you change it, brazilian?</p>
<p>something people have to understand about racism is that it originates from racial identity. It is in human nature to bond in groups, and because we have racial identity, we identify with those who are of the same race and not with those who are of different races, therefore creating a racial bias/tendency towards people of one’s own race. </p>
<p>with this in mind, it’s not difficult to imagine that racial cliques exist no matter where you go. kids who have difficulty dealing with homesickness may exclusively hang out with a group of students with similar background to theirs. People with a weaker racial identity find it easier to reach out to all sorts of people, and vice versa for people who have a strong racial identity.</p>
<p>I don’t think there are any brazillians at Exeter as far as I know, so you may be alone. But that doesn’t mean you will be friendless, because not everyone participates exclusively in racial cliques. Only the really homesick/people with strong racial identity</p>
<p>yeah, at first time i’ve posted, i’ve misunderstod you, i’m sorry dude, now i understand what you meant.
i see the clubs as a way of not ‘loosing’ some cultural traditions. muslim students, for example, can stay with their ramadan traditions, mexicans can celebrate the dia de los muertos and other things like that. i’m not afraid of being alone at exeter because of coming from a different country, it’s the opposite: lead with other traditions and cultures is what attracts me the most in schools like exeter. i’ll certainly miss speaking portuguese and things like that, but isn’t the end of the world for me.</p>
<p>Thank you all, and a few clarifications, if I may:</p>
<ol>
<li><p>Exeter does NOT discourage people with similar backgrounds from hanging out together.</p></li>
<li><p>Exeter DOES value diversity and encourages people from different backgrounds to connect with each other.</p></li>
<li><p>If you think that 1 and 2 are incompatible, you haven’t thought very hard :)</p></li>
</ol>
<p>urbanflop, you also asked whether Exeter has a “zero-tolerance policy.” The short answer is “no,” in the sense that there’s no rule violation that <em>automatically</em> gets you thrown out of the school. All rule violations are examined on a case-by-case basis, so that the violations may be understood within the context in which they took place. The “major offenses” listed in the E Book are the ones that <em>may</em> result in your being dismissed (if the Discipline Committee makes that decision after examining your case).</p>
<p>PEAteacher, what is the typical parent dress for new student registration day? My wife asked me if I was going to wear a necktie and was surprised when I said I would probably decline that opportunity.</p>
<p>Mainer, please wear shorts and a T-shirt. Your kid probably lives on the fourth floor of a dorm without elevator, and you’ll be dripping sweat after your first trip carrying up some gigantic object that junior just couldn’t do without. In fact, bring a towel and a water bottle 
Really, moving your kid in is a workout. The receptions for parents on move-in day are 100% informal. There’s nothing remotely formal going on at Exeter until the Friday opening assembly.</p>
<p>Whew!!! Thank you!</p>
<p>Can I make small holes in the wall? I would be willing to pay for the damage…</p>
<p>neatoburrito, thanks so much for the “Why are we doing this?” link - I have just started the process for my D and wake up every morning asking just that question. Nice to know others have the same thought.</p>
<p>cutiedida, in theory you can’t. In practice, check with your dorm head; we try to be reasonable people.</p>
<p>PEAteacher - Keep it coming! You are an excellent ambassador for Exeter. We are starting the BS proccess for my D and had not originally included Exeter on our list - we had heard the adjective “pressure cooker” just one too many times. My D and I have gone back and read your posts from 3/09 forward, and must say that you paint a very different picture of life at Exeter. We have requested a viewbook and will certainly visit your school.</p>
<p>hey peateacher, im back with more questions since i leave tomorrow morning for exeter!
would it be ok for my mother and brother to come up after sports practice during dinner time to see me and my room?</p>
<p>PEA teacher, do you have any knowledge about whether attending Exeter’s summer session helps a student get admitted? The question of attendance does appear on the application, however I wonder how much weight is given to this small piece? If so, how does it help?</p>
<p>I would think it would only help a student get a first hand view of potential opportunities of attending a prep school and in particular Exeter. I don’t see how it would help the student get admitted, unless they did very well in a class and were recognized by an Exeter teacher who could write a recommendation as someone with a lot of potential to contribute to the school’s regular student body.</p>
<p>Madaket, thanks, but unfortunately I rarely have time to do this regularly when school is in session (you’ll see that most of my posts are during school breaks). And that’s why I’m falling behind; the kids are here and about 101% of my time is now dedicated to them… gabii, generally okay for family to visit, but check with faculty if a boy is visiting a girls’ dorm. red, it’s not so much about “help”; if you attend summer school, Exeter will know more about you and take that knowledge into account when evaluating your application.</p>