<p>Thank you, @grx567. We’re awaiting feedback from our financial advisor, so that we’ll have all the numbers. Thanks for highlighting penalties. We’re not yet 59.5, so we will have penalties, but now I’m wondering if it matters if the withdrawal is for education/tuition, is that somehow favored with lower penalties. I’ll be sure to ask. </p>
<p>We’ve been saving for retirement with the expectation that we wouldn’t touch it for anything else. But, now our DD has a chance to attend a school more suited to her needs and we hadn’t expected such a wonderful option. While the full-pay tuition is more like $40,000/SY, we are eligible for fin aid. At this point, we have to decide if spending so much is “worth it.” </p>
<p>I’m starting out with the thought that it is, while DH is starting out with the thought that the price is out of our reach. He’s open to the discussion and so am I. My buddies seem to support the “invest in your high school kid” approach, and they are definitely swaying me. However, our educational consultant is concerned about moving into the unknown (a new school) and leaving the known public school, where a comprehensive IEP is in place (but not implemented so much). So, I’m asking myself to consider a “worst case scenario”: If we pay about $30K to cover the two years needed at the new school ($15K/SY - or more if penalties for tapping some retirement funds), and there were NO significant academic results from our DD, how would I feel? Would I be OK with it? I think I very well might. </p>
<p>Still, I can’t believe that this new school’s work with our DD would fail to help her is so many ways even beyond academics. While the school doesn’t use the IEP process under IDEA, it does have a personalized learning plan. We have up-to-date testing to use for this, as well. Already, we’re planning for a gap year (a low expense!) that she can use to bolster her skills and experiences even more, as it seems clear her ACT/SAT scores and other markers are likely not to show her full potential by the time she leave HS (so says the neuropsych — she has a bunch of catching up to do). So, the new school could serve as a launching pad for post-HS/pre-college year.</p>
<p>I’ll keep working on this dilemma. I want to make sure I have no stars in my eyes when we make this decision. I’m sure that the district does not have what she needs, but she could continue with the bird in hand (and just
“live” with the consequences. However, I feel 99 percent confident the DD would be much HAPPIER at the new school. Priceless? Hmm. Thanks, again!</p>