For a student travelling halfway across the world.

<p>By the way, Pasadena is a lovely and safe area with a lot of beautiful (& expensive) homes. It's fairly safe to stroll about in the area and near the Huntington Library which has lovely formal gardens and houses a museum with several masterpieces. They also have a fabulous tea with scones, fruit, finger sandwiches, etc.</p>

<p>My S wanted to attend CalTech, but he's at nearby USC instead. CalTech has its own culture, which you will discover wtih your classmates. I'm sure if you give yourself time, you'll adjust just fine and have a fabulous time!</p>

<p>Himom - you make a very important point about campus culture. </p>

<p>A few more points on the practical aspects of all of this - you should expect to get a lot of paperwork regarding orientation, move-in, and housing soon. Each college has its own way of doing all of this and there will be a lot of information to wade through. Some colleges encourage roommates to meet and contact each other before they get to campus while other institutions discourage it and even go to great lengths to make sure that you do not know who your roommate(s) will be or where they are from. Also, some colleges allow you to mail packages to your dorm before your arrival while others do not. This is worth looking into.</p>

<p>Does Caltech recommend that you buy your computer in the States? Again, many colleges - and departments- have certain requirements that local purveyors are fully equipped and ready to handle at good prices. Once you get connected with other Caltech students and parents you should be able to sort out all of this and find the "best" places to shop.</p>

<p>Kids come in all sizes, shapes, and colors. You will hit it off with some and not with others. First impressions are important but not always reliable so keep an open mind. Trust your instincts and use basic common sense. If a situation makes you feel out of it or uncomfortable part of you will be up to the challenge to stretch and adapt while another part of you will want to draw back - as with everything else in life, pick your battles and don't do anything that goes against your inner grain of integrity. Peer pressure is a mighty social force in American culture but not everyone falls prey to it. Bangalore hosts an impressive number of world-class international schools - certainly try to reach out and contact American nri's or expats who might be willing to talk to you and your parents. </p>

<p>Don't forget to compile a good collection of music for your mp3 player. Think about what kinds of music you like. Do you play an instrument? This is usually a great social plus, even if it is the bongos. What are your favorite tv and movie genres? You will most likely meet an eclectic bunch at Caltech and find many levels to connect. Most American students, and even you ,might not know or care much about "Koffee with Karan" much less "The Kumars at no. 42" since it isn't easy to appreciate the keen humor of Sanjeev and his sassy granny played so well by Meera Syal. (The Fox version of the show failed miserably which shows that cross-cultural concepts often do not translate.) If your parents or relatives spend time watching American tv fare, just gently remind them that not all Americans enjoy "Fashion House" or think that "Miami Vice" depicts a slice of American life.</p>

<p>Great job on the CA/US differences, here are a few additions, just of the top of my head, not nearly as well-considered as paying3</p>

<p>(These are stereotypes based on anecdotal evidence)</p>

<p>A} Church- all along the west coast, in the places I have lived in the US (in Canada you would say the "states"), "everybody" goes to church. Perhaps not every week, but even the holiday-only Catholics send their kids to catechism classes. Religion (in my personal experience, primarily Christianity) seemed to be a basic accepted folkway/more of life. It was not unusual to attend church, if a kid slept over on a Saturday night, there would not be any offence taken if you took that kid with you to church. It is just part of our nations culture, in many (not all, no flames please) places. </p>

<p>I was truly amazed that in most of the places in BC there was little or no church background. We had a group of 10+ girls over for an Easter weekend (no church background, but Easter Monday off!) and the blessing we said over the dinner was the first many of them had ever experienced.</p>

<p>B} I saw a great deal of the elephant/mouse issue- people in Canada are more fascinated and interested in OUR (US) politics than many US residents. But they tend to be so on the liberal side- the conservative party in BC is the "liberals" which shows where the starting point is!! What I did find interesting is that Canadians can attend many US schools on financial aid (Ivy's, Colgate, etc) yet they do not offer any financial aid and even limit enrolment to US kids, so that is the old chip on their shoulder again, a bit xenophobic toward Americans, as an adult, not so much in an overt way, but in simple policies like fin aid and limiting enrolment, thinking that is completely fair whilst they also think it is fair that the US treats Canadian kids to financial aid (not govt grants, but differently than other internationals)</p>

<p>It is an amazing experience for any American to see their country as seen through others eyes- my kids became more patriotic than they had before, that which was accepted as normal became appreciated as "our" country. It is also eye opening to experience an sort of discrimination when it has never happened before, I think it gave my kids a different level of sensitivity for all the ways one can experience discrimination</p>

<p>C} Definitely the US is the melting pot and Canada is a "mosaic"</p>

<p>D} Canadians do seem more polite, but there may be a quite seething under there. My kids experienced a great deal of harassment on a daily basis for being from the US- not anything serious, just the kind of junior high garbage a kid gets anyway, only this was all about being American. In most other circumstances the Canadians would be more polite, non-confrontational, etc., yet dising Americans was a prevalent hobby.</p>

<p>E} They do not seem to like George W :D</p>

<p>F} Tons of British-type accents all around BC, with intriguing histories & stories to tell. There is a bit of the British classism around, yet, when you think about it, any one who had it made in the UK would not have immigrated to Canada, so odd to see any snobbery! They do spell things the British way and have different pronunciations- after spending several years there, one can have some real confusion about which version of some words is "normal"</p>

<p>G} Alberta is the most similar in attitude to the US.</p>

<p>H} Whilst French is the second language and printed on everything, people in BC do not avidly pursue it and they tend to make fun of Quebec, when not making fun of the US :)</p>

<p>I} Hmm, my family all leave their shoes at the door- I guess we internalised that there, never thought about it being a Canadian thing!</p>

<p>J} People in the US are definitely more independent, more direct, more likely to say, "let's do this" "let's get it done" less negotiating, the American directness can come across as rude or pushy</p>

<p>K} They pay waay more taxes.</p>

<p>L} Day to day medical care coverage is cheap & reasonably convenient. If you live in the US near the border, go buy your prescriptions there! If you are a Canadian and have a cancer or heart thing, you may very well head to the US-if you can afford it- for both timely and cutting edge treatment. A dear friend determined the offered treatment in Canada was about 10 years behind what was going on in the US, he trekked to Cali/WA and is still alive 6 years later after a recurrence from 6 years before that...they feel that the initial treatment was not cutting edge and felt betrayed by their system when they researched on the 2nd occurrence.</p>

<p>M} Canadians are amazed at the guns & violence in the US, we went to a sporting goods store in the US with some Canadian friends & they were awestruck by the rifle display, they spent 20 minutes checking it all out, it was so foreign. They see us as violent. Whenever there is a warning of some one armed headed toward the border, the border will shut down as he guards are unarmed, I used to think they were afraid, but apparently it is aunion tactic as they want to be armed.</p>

<p>N} Canadians seem to travel more readily- they all want to seek the sun in the winter, I understand that, but we met so many people who were/did/had worked out of country as ex-pats in oil, business, mining, etc. I don't know if it is the tax structure or what, but I met many Canadians who sought that lifestyle- we have friends in Nigeria, Philippines, South America, Singapore, Middle East locations, etc. Perhaps knowing one, I met the group, but I never ran into any Americans who gave much consideration to working out of country...the same way Americans don't know as much about the rest of the world, we Americans are totally content in our bubble and don't think about what is outside of it. Also, they vacation in Cuba, just a matter of fact, whereas we don't even think about that as a place a person could/would want to go.....for them it is a cheap beach vacation with no Americans......perhaps the only Caribbean vacation without tons of New Yorkers :p</p>

<p>One idea for getting a better feel for the specific area, check out the radio stations there, especially a talk station, se if they have streaming audio, then listen to them for a sense of the area and the feel and the ads, you will, over time pick up lots of interesting info.</p>

<p>Of course, after several, years of getting all sorts of hassle for being American in Canada, my kids, now back in America, have a huge affection for Canada, tons of lifelong friends there and genuine affinity for the country and they all go back frequently for visiting. One even did a study "abroad" there, though she felt like she was going "home!"</p>

<p>Thank you P3T for taking the time to write the post on Canada. Your comments seem fair to me and accurate. Living on the west coast, though, I had never run into the church/state paying for Catholic schools issue. This obviously comes out of the French/English conflicts. I often look at the French/English divide as being as critical to the history of Canada as the north/south divide is to US history. I think the working by consensus, emphasis on the group and the consequent tendency to let things lie were the most difficult cultural differences that I had to learn to accept. I found myself wanting to shake people, often. I am sure, they found me to be obnoxious. Peace, order and good government vs life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness to use the clich</p>

<p>Gosh. I've just spent the better part of an hour reading the advice and opinions here obsessively (even the bits about Canada. :D The more one knows...), and -- I'm not the most eloquent person around when it comes to expressing gratitude, but thank you all very much! I hate being ill-informed.</p>

<p>My parents were rather fluttery about packing just about everything in the house (up to and including the fridge and the oven, I think) and sending it off with me, but I think I've managed to talk them out of that. I'll probably just drag along my nicer clothes and favourite pair of grotty jeans, and the books that I refuse to be parted from; I already own a (nice!) laptop, and a sizeable collection of music, so that's probably not going to be a problem for me. </p>

<p>Adjustment-wise: I'm fairly socially liberal in some respects (which is partly because India's really trying very, very hard to become the US -- or at least, a certain segment of it is), which might be somewhat helpful. Some things -- especially the lowered emphasis on respecting authority, which is a pretty big thing as far as my family's concerned -- will be rather jarring, I expect, though. (Nice to be warned about what I might run into beforehand, though!) Attempting to get in touch with some potential classmates or seniors before actually arriving is something I'm probably going to do, as is attempting to blog the misadventures I'll no doubt have (for one thing, I'll have to look different sides of the road before crossing! If I don't get run over, it'll probably be an achievement.) -- right now, though, I'm both trying to inform myself about what I can expect to find, and trying to convince myself to let things happen how they will. </p>

<p>(Again -- loads & loads of gratitude for all the responses here!)</p>

<p>I'd also like to thank everyone, I'm in the same situation as Noldo, only going to Oberlin, and 17 :).</p>