<p>“How do people normally socialize at Columbia - is there a popular hangout?”</p>
<p>Essentially, no, which is why there’s no built-in community. Instead, there are lots of parties and hanging out in dorms (which you find out about through student groups and networks of friends), bars around campus, and (especially earlier in the year) frat parties. People also go downtown, but you can’t really go downtown randomly and end up meeting people. You have to know what’s going on and either go with friends or crash a party that you’ve heard about.</p>
<p>If you just keep to yourself and don’t reach out and try to make friends, then you might not find out what’s going on each night, so you won’t really know where to go to hang out. But you’ll definitely meet people on your floor, in your classes, and in your student groups, so you’ll be able to hang out with them. You won’t be alone if you don’t want to be. The key is to be open to meeting people and making time to hang out with them. Especially when you’re a freshperson, don’t be afraid to ask someone you’ve just met (or a group of people) to get dinner in JJs or just hang out in one of your rooms all night and talk or study. </p>
<p>Columbia is social, but it’s a very decentralized social scene, which, to be fair, is the same way that New York is. There are no events that all New Yorkers go to; instead, there are thousands of bars and parties that go on in this city every night and people check out those they hear about from their friends. At Columbia, you can either find out what your friends are doing and just go along with them, or, if you’re more of a loner/adventurous, figure out what’s going on each weekend and show up at the parties you’ve heard about, where you can hopefully meet more people. </p>
<p>What you can’t do at Columbia, but can do at small liberal arts colleges in the middle of nowhere, is just show up alone at the student center on Friday night and expect that all your friends will also be there (unless you’ve called them in advance to meet up). This doesn’t mean you’ll never run into your friends and classmates; you’ll see them all the time in the library (especially during finals), walking to class, in the dining halls, and maybe randomly at big parties. But in general, you can’t count on there being one place where everyone goes to hang out, which is not necessarily a bad thing.</p>
<p>@neiro6: You might not get invited to crazy parties if you don’t associate with the kinds of people who attend crazy parties, but you won’t be seen as a shut-in because most people at Columbia aren’t crazy partiers. They just get together with their friends, figure out what’s going on, and then make plans to go out. The danger of this kind of decentralized social scene is if you don’t have a close group of friends and you don’t have connections to very social people. Then you could end up spending a lot of time alone, unsure what to do.</p>