<p>you should go to the top 20 college, youll make new friends and learn to stand on your own 2 feet, your bubble is only a phone call away.</p>
<p>thanks for the help guys…It is a private school…There are 2 top 20 schools closer to home (2-3 hours away), but I was flat out rejected at those…I guess transfer to those if I don’t really like living 12 hours away.</p>
<p>Some of the best advice I got about how to choose a college was, “Go where you’re not going to get there and wonder what would have happened had I went to the other school.” Try to go where you think it the most exciting. I was an extreme homebody in high school. I didn’t even like to spend the night at a friend’s house! I ended up going to college 15 hours away. I fly home for every break, so it doesn’t feel like I’m far away at all. You can also talk to everyone from home several times a day on your phone. Just make sure that you do meet other people too.</p>
<p>Go where you feel most comfortable because that is where you will be able to focus on doing your academic best. Some people need more time to get used to the idea of leaving home, and it is okay to take small steps and only move an hour away. You will know some people before you get to the school, and the social adjustment will feel smoother. You have the option to go home on weekends, but like most students you will probably be to busy with friends to do so. Nevertheless, just knowing that you have the option will make you feel calmer and better able to focus on your work. There’s nothing wrong with you. You will likely love where you end up, but if you don’t you can always transfer. Stop worrying and do what will make you happiest.</p>
<p>How are you ever going to become independent if you don’t want to move away from your family? It’s not as hard as you’re imagining. I went to school 2,000 miles from my family and everyone I knew and I did just fine. I visit my family about once a year and even though I do miss their company, I know that I’m making a good life for myself away from them. It’s hard to grow when you’re in such a secluded environment.</p>
<p>It does take a while to get use to the change. When I moved, I waited three months to attend school so that I could transition easier. I didn’t know anyone but eventually after those three months, it became easier to live. Maybe it would be a good idea for you to move there during the summer so that you could get more accustomed to your surroundings and have a chance to meet some people before you start.</p>
<p>I thought the need to explore and see new places was one of the basic human instincts. Get the hell out. Go.</p>
<p>and why won’t you tell us what specific school?</p>
<p>thanks for the last couple of posts, any one who goes to college far away want to give their input.</p>
<p>I think that you have major attachment issues to home. I’d suggest you take a gap year, but you’d spend it around your community, so that wouldn’t help. Think about it this way: almost EVERYONE who is going to the private college is going without friends and is far away from family. In this modern age, you are never more than a phone call away from your family. You should be able to form a social network of friends at the college, and holding on to high school friends at college doesn’t necessarily work (it doesn’t necessarily NOT work either) but it runs a chance of stunting your ability to find people who you’ll get along with even better than your current friends.</p>
<p>Also, I think going home 5 times a year, no matter how far away your college is, is too much, but that’s quite a different issue.</p>
<p>I don’t know much about going out of state to university or college because i go to a local college myself, but i do know that universities and colleges have counselors that can help with the homesickness. Pluse I need some advice too. I’m planning on going to a university that is 11 hours and 41 minutes away by car, and I was wanting to know what to expect from going to a out of state college. and how to survice that experience. I will be graduating my local college either next spring or the following. any info and advice would be great.</p>
<p>There is nothing wrong with staying close to home. It doesn’t mean that you won’t eventually be ready to go someplace new. Just graduating from high school and then going to college is a big step. You can take as much time as you need to move further away from your family. If you end up graduating and then living/working in the same home town you always have been in, that is wonderful. I moved away from my home town for 5 years or so in my 20’s and then came back. There is nothing quite like being close to family.</p>
<p>I don’t think it is such a big deal if the state school doesn’t rate against other schools. You could go there for your first two years and then maybe you will want to transfer. If you visited the school that is 12 hrs away and you really didn’t like it, then why even consider it? You are going to be stuck there for years so don’t set yourself up to be miserable.</p>
<p>If you are very close to family and friends it is hard to be without them. When i was away from mine, it was hard. Some people are not that attached and have no problem with it at all. For me, and maybe you, i would rather choose to live near family than pretty much any other place.</p>
<p>I decided to go to college 3000 miles away from home (Alaska → Michigan). I didn’t know anyone in the entire state of Michigan, let alone anyone at my school so it was definitely a transition. I’ve always been super independent so my transition was essentially seamless, even though I am super close with my family. Plus, I have a bunch of relatives in Chicago that I can visit during Thanksgiving/spring break. I am hardly if ever homesick, I love my school (both academically and socially) and was able to make a ton of friends right off the bat. Some people have transition experiences similar to mine, while others are a lot more homesick. It’s hard to know which one you are until you actually just try it out. Living away from home makes you learn a lot about yourself and your ability to adapt. There is nothing wrong with staying close to home for college - but I always found that people who choose to stay in one area for all of their lives tend to be a lot less worldly and more closed-minded to new experiences in general etc. College is one of the best times to choose to go to a new place because once you get your degree, you can choose to go home if you really miss it (but at least you’ve had the experience of going elsewhere).</p>
<p>im going to be dealing with this same problem next year… :/. Don’t know what im gonna do either. It’s a hard decision but you’re never really going to feel completely ready to move away from home. If you even think you could be okay far away, then you probably could. If that makes sense.</p>
<p>I went from San Antonio to Minneapolis, without ever visiting the school or Minneapolis until I’d committed to the school and was at orientation. Went on a total limb just hoping for the best.</p>
<p>Best decision EVER. The feeling of not knowing anyone on a massive campus is pretty amazing because you can start over and be who you truly want to be. High school stereotypes are gone and you can mature and redefine your personality. Not to mention getting to experience the lifestyle in a brand new city and interacting with completely different types of people is exciting. </p>
<p>Homesickness just doesn’t happen. I thought it would, but it doesn’t. I miss my girlfriend like crazy but as far as parents/family/home/friends… that’s all what college has become. I actually miss college when I’m home on breaks more than I miss home when I’m at college.</p>