<p>Just curious if anyone else feels bored when they go to parties and they're one of the few people not drunk. Recently I've been making gas money by volunteering to be the designated driver, and I usually find myself counting down the minutes until the party dies down. </p>
<p>Anyone else feel that way? Anyone have suggestions on how to not be completely bored when most of your friends are drunk and you're the sober one?</p>
<p>Make it into a research project for your sociology/psychology/communication class and do structured observations of people.</p>
<p>Or find someone else in the same situation and chat with them.</p>
<p>Consuming alcohol can obviously affect the fun-level of a party, but if it’s a complete drag to go when you’re not drunk, then there’s a huge issue. </p>
<p>Do you not socialize with your friends when you get there? There’s no reason to have drinking/non-drinking separation. Is there a reason why you can’t partake in party activities (conversation, dancing, whatever) just because you don’t have a drink in your hand?</p>
<p>It’s not that I can’t have fun, it’s just harder to hold a conversation when most people at the party are taking 6-8 shots/drinks. I do try to socialize with people that are having 3 or fewer drinks, but typically they’re just random strangers, and I can be a little awkward with people I don’t know. </p>
<p>I guess what I meant was that I haven’t made a large number of friends here yet (transferred this summer, and only know a few people so far) and those that I have met tend to completely overdo it at parties. As far as having fun at parties without drinking, I don’t have an issue there. At my previous school, I went to a number of parties without drinking and still had a blast but I tended to know those people and the drinking scene, IMO, was much more restrained than at my new institution.</p>
<p>But thanks for the suggestions about how to enjoy myself.</p>
<p>whenhen, things will get better in the fall when other activities are more in full swing. Also try a few other venues to meet people…for example, if you work out, go to one of the fitness centers–sometimes more “healthy minded” people.</p>
<p>I never drunk at any of the college parties I went to and I still had fun. Some people were so weak-willed that they had a problem with me being there if I wasn’t drinking, but a few generous donations toward the party’s host for more party supplies kept me out of trouble. </p>
<p>I never had a problem striking conversations about politics, business, and art with the women I conversed with, even if they were drinking. Granted, their end of the conversation was sometimes sub-par, but when we transitioned to more intimate topics everything was alright.</p>
<p>Why don’t you just drink at the parties?</p>
<p>^Maybe because he/she don’t want to?
Not everyone want to to drink, ya know?</p>
<p>I would say try to make it as entertaining for you as possible. It can be kind of weird but I like to people watch and make fun of people in my head because they make complete fools out of themselves. Talking to people really helps because they don’t think the conversation is as weird as you know it is (because they are drunk). Further, try to make people talk about themselves when they are drunk, this way they will appreciate you more and you get to learn more about them.</p>
<p>Finally, what I kind of do when I don’t drink at parties is “pretend.” Not pretend that you are drunk but pretend you are in the same mood as them. Just because you don’t have a cup in your hand doesn’t mean you haven’t had something. Feel free to dance with people and act the same way as the people at the party without drinking.</p>
<p>Yeah, it’s tough. I don’t drink, either, and while I have a lot of fun with other sober people, I just don’t feel super comfortable around totally wasted people (which, unfortunately, seems to be how it goes in college, as opposed to someone having a drink or two to loosen up). I just don’t go to parties like that, which pretty much means I don’t ever go to much of anything. Oh, well; that was my choice. People want to have their fun and I can’t complain that it isn’t compatible with my idea of fun, I guess.</p>
<p>I worry about this, I’ll be attending UCSB this fall and I don’t really drink.</p>
<p>Not gonna lie, the party is probably gonna be pretty lame. What is there at a party? Boys, booze, and music. I highly doubt you wanna try to make anything special with a boy at a frat party who is really drunk. You don’t want to drink so booze is out. Yes you can dance to the music, but its kinda weird to dance all out and have fun dancing sober in a crowd of people falling over drunk…and its too loud to hold a convo usually so yea…</p>
<p>Well, I don’t drink because I’m a smoker and Fredo is the drinker, while tadoe off molly water. Hahahaha No really, i rarely drink at a party, if i do drink it’s not enough to be buzzed or drunk.</p>