<p>he let her go down on him for like ten seconds. he shouldn't have even been in a situation where that could happen to begin with--yeah he was drunk & high, but i've been the same way & have never let things escalate that far.</p>
<p>I have to second phade; all it sounds like you did was punish and humiliate him - and, more disturbingly, you seem proud of it.</p>
<p>oh, and by "girl" i mean "woman of 27 years"..</p>
<p>Yeah, if I was him I would have dumped you right then and there. No ***** is worth that ****.</p>
<p>Aparently you suck in life because you spent your time on someone who you did not want to be with. Now you are bragging about being an idiot! Think!</p>
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You sound like a ***** to me... Some girl came on to him, he pushed her away... that constitutes cheating how?
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everyone makes mistakes and it doesn't sound like it meant anything.</p>
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all it sounds like you did was punish and humiliate him
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i always thought if a guy cheated on me i'd break up with him immediately, so it was a huge struggle to deal with the fact that i still loved him but was basically going against my morals to stay with him. i can honestly say that i think he deserved what i dished out for what he did. i was in situations where i could have done the same thing, and i was able to resist it. he wasn't, but i guarantee you he won't do it again..</p>
<p>i do agree that by agreeing to stay with him i shouldn't have thrown it in his face for months, but that was a defense mechanism because it took me that long to get over it and forgive him.</p>
<p>and the fact that he stayed with me after all of it proves that he really didn't mean to hurt me in the first place.</p>
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i always thought if a guy cheated on me i'd break up with him immediately, so it was a huge struggle to deal with the fact that i still loved him but was basically going against my morals to stay with him. i can honestly say that i think he deserved what i dished out for what he did. i was in situations where i could have done the same thing, and i was able to resist it. he wasn't, but i guarantee you he won't do it again..</p>
<p>i do agree that by agreeing to stay with him i shouldn't have thrown it in his face for months, but that was a defense mechanism because it took me that long to get over it and forgive him.</p>
<p>and the fact that he stayed with me after all of it proves that he really didn't mean to hurt me in the first place.
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<p>Yeah, I agree. I see nothing wrong with asking somebody to own up to their actions. The fact that the guy actually did what Leah asked is pretty admirable to me. You think the guy had it tough for just making some phone calls here and there? I think it would be so much worse for the person who got cheated on, imagine how insecure they would feel about themselves.</p>
<p>Cheating is cheating, even if it's just for 10 seconds.</p>
<p>Is the therapy session still open?</p>
<p>If you really like someone then you should both try to work things out instead of complaining and doing something stupid. I think Leah's bf is a real man lol. He manned up.</p>
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Cheating is cheating, even if it's just for 10 seconds.
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You're missing the point. If the guy pushed her away after she came on to him then it isn't cheating, he can't control her actions. Saying that is cheating is like saying store owners are guilty of shoplifting because the the theif was sucessful in stealing from them even though they tried to stop the theft...</p>
<p>leah377: </p>
<p>Why not just break up with him? I don't understand why because of 10 seconds of supposed "cheating" you made him tell his parents about it and have him test for STDs at 4 different places... Do you even know how STDs are spread? He wouldn't even be able to get his clothes off in 10 seconds...</p>