<p>I think in many ways being a student is a great leveller in terms of the kinds of outward displays of wealth you seem to be talking about. People live in the same places, they eat the same food in the same places, they drag themselves from their beds to the same early morning classes regardless of their parents’ income. There are relatively few opportunities to ostentatiously flaunt your (parents’) money - you might have all the toys, but you have nowhere to put them. </p>
<p>Talking specifically about clothes, I have found that what people wore came under much greater scrutiny at my low income urban public high school than it ever really did at my Ivy League college. The prep-school wealthy, in my experience, have little interest in the aspirational bling that was such an important marker of social status in my high school. But then, they don’t really need to.</p>
<p>I don’t think the elitist/down-to-earth divide is that closely associated with pure wealth. Someone can have a great deal of money and not be elitist in the sense of looking down on people who don’t have money or making sure that everyone knows just how rich they are. And I think, in my experience, that is a key distinction in looking at different people’s experiences of top schools today. </p>
<p>I think in the past there was a sense that the Ivy League schools were clubs from which all but the very wealthy were vigorously excluded, not just because people from other socioeconomic backgrounds straight didn’t have the money to attend, but because their attitudes and values just didn’t fit right - the poor (or even just the not extremely rich) were different and the Ivy League was not their place. Nowadays, I think you don’t see that so much, and perhaps, to some extent that is attributable to the increased aid given to the aspirational middle classes (and it is the upper/middle classes who have been the recipients of this expansion in need-based aid, however much they feel they are being shut out. The truly poor are still for various reasons unlikely to have the opportunity to attend an Ivy League school and so get the aid they could, in principle, have received). Although it is not perfect, there is a now a continuum of wealth, and of the attitudes and values associated with it, which everyone is on, rather than a large group of haves and a tiny number of have-nots that the rich graciously allowed in. </p>
<p>As a Pell recipient, I was aware that the majority of my classmates were richer than me, some more so than others, and our experiences and ways of looking at life were not always quite the same, but while, if you compare individuals with individuals there were some people who were very different to me, and yes, there were people who were preppy and elitist, I never felt that I was so extremely different from my classmates as a whole. I never felt set apart from everyone else, like a curiosity or a performing monkey. I never felt I shouldn’t be there.</p>