Hi guys, thanks for all your advice in my original thread, just wanted to let you know that me and my mom both sat down with my dad and I pretty much told him I’m picking community college. If he wants to help me buy a car, down paymemt on an apartment, or give me living expenses I’m fine with that, but I don’t want him to take anything from that 401k. Turns out he was 120k in it. I didn’t know that but still, I don’t want him to mess with it.
He doesn’t like me going to community college, but perked up when I said I was still going to transfer to the university that accepted me. I think he’s fine with it all now & now I can relax, enjoy my summer, then start my higher education 
I know, an anticlimactic ending but Hey… Happy Easter!