Help! Top College or No College...

<p>I have a very dire problem. I'm a domestic international student, meaning that I can't get government financial aid for the colleges I want to go to, even though I've been living in the United States for over a decade already. Because I've been living here for such a long time, I've also forgotten much of my first language, meaning that it would be impossible for me to succeed at a college back in my home country. Add to these two factors that my family lives under the poverty level, and now I can't afford to pay the costs of higher education... that is, unless I manage to be accepted a top college that can afford to give me something close to a full ride.</p>

<p>A few months ago, I did manage to apply for QuestBridge's National College Match scholarship and made it all the way to the finalist round, but in the end, I was left unmatched with the two colleges I ranked, Princeton and Yale (these two were the only ones out of the three colleges open to international applicants that interested me). Honestly, as one of five hundred 11th grade National AP Scholars and one of a couple thousand students with a 35 on the ACT, I believed that I had a very good chance at being matched with these two dream colleges of mine, especially since I had the disadvantages listed above, in addition to having transferred schools eleven times in my life. I am left with a bitter taste in my mouth, but the past is the past and I have to move on.</p>

<p>But this brings me to the problem that I stated before. With no middle ground in this matter, I have come to reason that this is a life-or-death situation (of course not literally, but it seems very close). As most everyone knows, a college education is a critical factor in determining one's financial success later on in life; what I am trying to say is that the two potential outcomes I am left with seem to be the two extremes on the financial success spectrum.</p>

<p>With the aforementioned information in mind, I would like to ask a few questions to complement the bigger question posed by the three paragraphs above:</p>

<p>-Do top colleges in the United States ever give out Regular Decision decisions ahead of time? Would it be too much of me to ask for one to secure peace of mind?
-How can I best go about explaining my situation to college admissions staff? Do you think that they would seriously take my situation into account, considering that there are many other well-qualified applicants to choose from?
-Which colleges offer the best financial aid programs for international applicants, and which ones should I apply to?
-Would it be prudent of me to direct college admissions staff to this thread or my outdated chances thread in hopes that they will be able to better understand my situation?</p>

<p>Thank you everyone in advance for your time and consideration.</p>

<p>Have you considered applying early action?</p>

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<li>No, colleges do not generally give our RD decisions ahead of time. No, you should not ask. If it were possible, everyone would request to get their RD decisions in October.</li>
<li>Definitely explain your situation, maybe in the “Additional Info” section of the Common App, or maybe just in a letter. A letter from you school counselor wouldn’t hurt, either.</li>
<li>No idea.</li>
<li>NO!! Do not direct admissions staff here! Especially with the type of schools you’re looking at, adcoms DO NOT HAVE TIME, and probably will not bother. All the info here and on your Chances thread should show up in your application!!!</li>
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<p>And you know, you do have options. Try applying for some scholarships, for instance… they may not cover all the costs, but you can apply to as many as you want. Also, you may want to think about starting out a community college for your first few years, and earning/saving enough money to transfer to a different school later. </p>

<p>And you DO have a middle ground. It is NOT only top colleges that give full rides. Look at your state flagship, maybe, or some other schools that give good merit aid to international students.</p>

<p>Get your college counselor to write a letter on your behalf to all the schools - that should put your situation in context. And yes, a lot of non-HYPSM schools do give out financial offers for international students and schools (especially your state school) might have merit aid as well - especially since your ACT score is quite high.</p>

<p>Make sure to get rid of any bitter thoughts before applying further. Princeton and Yale reject most with perfect records, no one, American or not, is entitled to admission. </p>

<p>With a good attitude and realistic list of schools, you should end up with some good choices. But realize the top colleges get tens of thousands of applications from highly qualified international students, so the more you move away from the same few colleges so many want, the better your chances will become.</p>

<p>And you’re no more entitled to early notification and peace of mind that everyone else! Limited options are a problem for the majority. Your situation is far from rare and pointing adcom to this thread will show that you’re not in touch with the realities.</p>

<p>Colleges are not going to accept you because you have problems and need them. They will accept you based on what you have to bring to the campus. You are among tens of thousands of kids in this Country that are not here legally, the top colleges see many, many aspplications from kids just like you. Your job is to focus on making one want you for your great spirit, talents and contributions to your communities.</p>

<p>Why don’t you apply to some non-ivies and get a guarenteed full ride?</p>

<p>And Flammy, from the first post you have been asking how to explain your situation best. I’d like to say that you should start by not presenting yourself as a victim as you continuously do here. Colleges don’t want victims, they want those that make the best of tough situations and are able to see the bright side of life.</p>

<p>Thank you everyone for your responses. I’ve read all of your posts and am very grateful for your advice. Please allow me the opportunity to answer your questions and perhaps indirectly pose some new ones.</p>

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[QUOTE=phoenixtree]

Have you considered applying early action?

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While applying for QuestBridge’s National College Match program, I signed an agreement that I would not apply to any college through an early admission program. I would have to say that applying for QuestBridge’s program was well worth it, although I was not matched with a college in the end.</p>

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[QUOTE=Savs]

  1. Definitely explain your situation, maybe in the “Additional Info” section of the Common App, or maybe just in a letter. A letter from you school counselor wouldn’t hurt, either.

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[QUOTE=frankchn]

Get your college counselor to write a letter on your behalf to all the schools - that should put your situation in context.

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Thank you for the very thoughtful advice. I’m considering writing a letter since I’ve already sent my applications to Harvard, Princeton, and Yale. One thing I should probably say is that I forgot to mention in the first post that I am currently homeschooled, and my school counselor at the moment is my English-deficient father. Although he does have the ability to communicate ideas somewhat decently in English, I think it would be better to write this letter myself. Please let me know if you would advise otherwise.</p>

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Scholarships… I tried looking into those a while ago but found out that many of them require citizenship or at least permanent residency status to qualify. I will definitely heed your advice, however, and will look into scholarships further. I have applied for some scholarships in the past with mixed success - as an example, I was fortunate enough to be awarded QuestBridge’s College Prep Scholarship and had the amazing opportunity to travel to a conference at Yale on a travel grant. The reason I am so hesitant about scholarships is that my family makes very little money each year; in 2007, my mom was the only person who had a regular wage, which amounted to only $10,000 for the entire year (she had attempted to start up a business but ultimately was not successful in the endeavor). Although that might sound a little “backwards,” please try to think of it this way: If I matriculate at a top college, I will most likely obtain very generous financial aid, and scholarships will not be necessary for me to be able to afford higher education. If I matriculate at a medium-level college, I will probably be left to pay much of the expenses on my own due to the facts that my parents cannot afford to pay and that the federal government will be unwilling to aid me with any money, and scholarships will only dent the surface of the huge amount of debt I would be left with. In this case, I believe that a college education would not be worth the large debt I would accrue. If I matriculate at a lower-level college, such as a community college, I might be able to pay the fees of education there, but would this lower-level education really be worth the cost? I would rather spend those four years of my life someplace else. If I transferred from that lower-level college to a medium-level college, I would again be left with a large debt that I would not be able to afford to pay off.</p>

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[QUOTE=Savs]

And you DO have a middle ground. It is NOT only top colleges that give full rides. Look at your state flagship, maybe, or some other schools that give good merit aid to international students.

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[QUOTE=frankchn]

And yes, a lot of non-HYPSM schools do give out financial offers for international students and schools (especially your state school) might have merit aid as well - especially since your ACT score is quite high.

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Thank you for the sound advice. My state’s university is the University of Illinois, which has several campuses around the state. I have applied to the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign, which happens to be one of the best schools in the nation (definitely not “middle ground” here), but at $24,000 a year for Illinois residents, I do not know if I would be able to secure enough merit financial aid to cover most of the cost. Merit financial aid is an unsure thing; I believe that I would be foolish to rely upon it to fund my higher education.</p>

<p>I thank you very much for pointing me to the possibility of getting a full ride from my state flagship college; with your guidance, I was very fortunately reminded of UIUC’s “Illinois Promise,” which pledges to “[provide] access to quality education for high achieving students from all backgrounds.” I’m not sure if I am eligible for this program, but I will definitely look into this.</p>

<p>Thanks again everyone for your responses. I’ll try to get responses up for the rest of the posts later today.</p>

<p>i know its not a big deal but UIUC is 12k a year. im from illinois</p>

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[QUOTE=hmom5]

Make sure to get rid of any bitter thoughts before applying further. Princeton and Yale reject most with perfect records, no one, American or not, is entitled to admission.

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Please let me start this post by thanking you for your thoughtful consideration. I will let you know that I have been trying my best to rid myself of any bitterness - I generally let fate take me where it wants me to go, but the difficult dilemma that has plagued me for the past week has hijacked my mind’s list of priorities. I am hoping for an acceptance from the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign’s rolling admissions program, which releases decisions next Friday, on December 12th. Perhaps this, combined with an official affirmation that I am eligible for the Illinois Promise (explained in my previous post), will calm my mind a bit.</p>

<p>I completely agree with you that nobody is entitled to an education at a top university. However, I would like to make clear that I believe that some people are more deserving of admission than others. I am not one to judge myself against others, but perhaps if an external observer were able to view the unique circumstances that have been affecting my life, he/she would be see that I have been placed in a very, very atypical situation.</p>

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[QUOTE=hmom5]

With a good attitude and realistic list of schools, you should end up with some good choices. But realize the top colleges get tens of thousands of applications from highly qualified international students, so the more you move away from the same few colleges so many want, the better your chances will become.

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I like to think of myself as a very optimistic person. I try to look at the bright side of everything that happens, and I would say that I usually succeed, knowing that God and fate are taking me where I was destined to go. I completely trust that He is leading me to a wonderful place, despite the obstacles I have been and will be facing along the way. No one can live without any obstacles, and I see that it must be just as true for me.</p>

<p>It has been very hard to see the bright side in this situation, however. Knowing that much future financial success lies in the decision that awaits me next year, the non-existence of any secure back-up options is not particularly calming. Perhaps it is God’s plan to leave me as poor as I am now; it is not something that I would like to experience, but if it is His will, I guess that there is nothing that will stop it. I realize that a college education is not necessary to become wealthy, but I do realize that it certainly helps.</p>

<p>With the situation explained in the first post, it has been very difficult for me to obtain a “realistic list of schools” that I can apply to – every single one of the colleges on my list are top-tier universities with generous financial aid programs. I have not been able to find any schools that offer generous financial aid for international students besides the ones that everyone knows about. If anyone knows of any colleges that I should apply to, please let me know.</p>

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[QUOTE=hmom5]

And you’re no more entitled to early notification and peace of mind that everyone else! Limited options are a problem for the majority. Your situation is far from rare and pointing adcom to this thread will show that you’re not in touch with the realities.

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I appreciate the time you took to advise me in this situation. While I agree with much of what you’ve written in your posts, I would have to disagree with you here on one thing you said. In all honesty, I believe that my situation is one-of-a-kind and not “far from rare” as you say here. In addition, although everybody is limited in their options to some extent, I would have to say that my options have been limited to a very severe degree, in a fashion that I find to be uncommon. I find it amazing that I was able to arrive at the academically successful position I am at today despite constant moving, impoverished conditions, lack of permanent residency, homeschooling disputes with the local public school administration, and the lack of English-proficient parents. I’ll give you the benefit of the doubt here, however, as I did not mention the last two factors in the original post.</p>

<p>Although I would be very much delighted to see an early decision notification, I’ve come to realize through your help that it would not be realistic for me to expect top-tier colleges to fulfill a request for one. I will also heed your other piece of advice and avoid directing college admissions staff to this thread, although I do not see any harm in doing so.</p>

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[QUOTE=hmom5]

Colleges are not going to accept you because you have problems and need them. They will accept you based on what you have to bring to the campus. You are among tens of thousands of kids in this Country that are not here legally, the top colleges see many, many aspplications from kids just like you. Your job is to focus on making one want you for your great spirit, talents and contributions to your communities.</p>

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<p>And Flammy, from the first post you have been asking how to explain your situation best. I’d like to say that you should start by not presenting yourself as a victim as you continuously do here. Colleges don’t want victims, they want those that make the best of tough situations and are able to see the bright side of life.

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I completely agree with you here, although I would like to make clear that I am not in the United States illegally, to the best of my knowledge. I thank you for your honest words and also for the opportunity to respond to your post; I highly enjoyed this chance to explain a little more about myself and my situation.</p>

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[QUOTE=phishfan0969]

Why don’t you apply to some non-ivies and get a guarenteed full ride?

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I wish that I could, but I currently do not know about any colleges (besides the top-tier colleges I am planning on applying to) that would be able to guarantee a full ride to an international student such as myself. Again, if you or anyone else has any information about this, please feel free to let me know.</p>

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[QUOTE=daman11]

i know its not a big deal but UIUC is 12k a year. im from illinois

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Thanks for taking the time to read my posts! May I ask where you were able to obtain this information? I recently checked UIUC’s financial aid website and was presented with this information: [University</a> of Illinois Financial Aid: Undergraduate Resident 2008-2009 Cost](<a href=“http://www.osfa.uiuc.edu/cost/undergrad/res_0809.html]University”>http://www.osfa.uiuc.edu/cost/undergrad/res_0809.html). On this chart, the Undergraduate Resident 2008-2009 cost seems to be a grand total of $24,714 for the base rate.</p>

<p>You could start off by going to your local community college. If you live at home and work, you should be able to afford it. After getting your AA, transfer to a 4-year college and go part time while working.</p>

<p>“Honestly, as one of five hundred 11th grade National AP Scholars and one of a couple thousand students with a 35 on the ACT, I believed that I had a very good chance at being matched with these two dream colleges of mine, especially since I had the disadvantages listed above, in addition to having transferred schools eleven times in my life. I am left with a bitter taste in my mouth, but the past is the past and I have to move on.”</p>

<p>Places like Princeton and Yale look for more than high test scores. Your 11 transfers are unfortunate, but aren’t likely to open admission doors. Colleges are looking for students who’ll add to their campus, not students who’ve had sad stories. The very top colleges get plenty of applicants who have high scores. What makes students stand out in their pools of students with excellent scores are things indicating that the students will contribute to creating an active, diverse campus.</p>

<p>There are many domestic, international, low income students. Your situation isn’t that unusual.</p>

<p>What job, EC, community service experience do you have that could make you stand out?</p>

<p>Flammy, I’ve read your posts for some time now and the theme is always the same: poor, poor, disadvantaged you. You have gone as far as to say that you are more disadvantaged than other ambitious kids. </p>

<p>All this makes me wonder where all the places you have lived are, because here in NYC and where I grew up in CA there are many, many kids who read just like you. I know kids who miss school a couple of days per week because they need the work hours to help their families. They are undocumented but find many ways to make money.</p>

<p>If you try to make colleges feel sorry for you they probably will, they will feel sorry that they chose not to offer you a place. They want lemonade, not lemons from their students with personal challenges.</p>

<p>And where you ever got the 500 number for junior AP scholars…there are schools that produce hundreds of junior AP scholars.</p>

<p>But you keep coming back to how different your situation is despite several very knowledgeable adults telling you there is nothing uncommon here. That you continue to think this is worrisome because that thinking is probably built into your essays and application.</p>

<p>You have not done your research if you think only top colleges give aid to internationals. </p>

<p>That you even considered asking colleges to make an exception for you and offer you admission early tells me you’re not getting your hands firmly around reality here. I fear you will end up with few choices at best if you don’t gain some insight that is reflected in your application. The Questbridge non match should serve as a wake up call.</p>

<p>“If I matriculate at a lower-level college, such as a community college, I might be able to pay the fees of education there, but would this lower-level education really be worth the cost? I would rather spend those four years of my life someplace else. If I transferred from that lower-level college to a medium-level college, I would again be left with a large debt that I would not be able to afford to pay off.”</p>

<p>It is up to you to decide whether a college education- <em>any</em> college education- is worth your money. It’s definitely not for everyone. But you keep saying that this is something you really want, and really <em>need</em>. So I would suggest keeping community college as an option. As others have said, if you live at home and work full-time you’ll be able to pay the tuition, and you’ll also be able to save money for the future. After two years, you can transfer anywhere- even an Ivy, where you could get full financial aid from the school. </p>

<p>Here is my suggestion: keep all your options open. Apply to the Ivies, sure, but also apply to some state schools and your local cc. Look into some schools that give good merit aid even to internationals. Then, wait and see what happens. Wait all the way until March, like everyone else. Once you get your acceptances and financial aid/ scholarship offers, then you can make your choice. </p>

<p>Here is my other suggestion: you may be poor, but you have other things in your life to be glad about. You have a family, you have a home, and you are smart. I’m sure that you can figure something out if you keep a good attitude and make the best of your situation. Always remember, you have choices. If you want to go to college, then you can go. It may not be easy, but it is possible. Do you have a job now? If not, you’d better get one. Are you willing to go to school full-time and work, too? You’d better be ready for that. You can be one of those amazing success stories, if you want to. But you have to try, and to make sacrifices. It really is all up to you.</p>

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[QUOTE=Northstarmom]

You could start off by going to your local community college. If you live at home and work, you should be able to afford it. After getting your AA, transfer to a 4-year college and go part time while working.</p>

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<p>There are many domestic, international, low income students. Your situation isn’t that unusual.

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I am thinking that you did not have the opportunity to read my third post in this thread, most likely because we were writing our posts at the same time. Nevertheless, thank you very much for taking the time to examine my situation and my questions.</p>

<p>Because I am in the United States without a Social Security Number, I am ineligible to work in any official capacity here. My parents have Social Security Numbers, but I do not believe that they would be able to pay for any substantial portion of my higher education. I am also hesitant to enroll at a community college because I believe that I could better spend the years elsewhere.</p>

<p>In regards to the lack of uniqueness in terms of my situation, I will somewhat repeat what I have stated in my third post (the one that you could not have read because we were posting at the same time). As an impoverished, domestic international student with English-deficient parents (yes, this is the ‘typical’ part), it was difficult for me to balance extracurriculars, academics, and relationships with my homeschooling disputes with the local public school when I attended that school during the first semester of the last school year. Having transferred schools eleven times in addition to the factors listed above, I find it very fortunate that I have reached a level of academic success that not many can attest to.</p>

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[QUOTE=Northstarmom]

Places like Princeton and Yale look for more than high test scores. Your 11 transfers are unfortunate, but aren’t likely to open admission doors. Colleges are looking for students who’ll add to their campus, not students who’ve had sad stories. The very top colleges get plenty of applicants who have high scores. What makes students stand out in their pools of students with excellent scores are things indicating that the students will contribute to creating an active, diverse campus.

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Yes, I completely agree. Students are not only their scores – in fact, that is one of the main philosophies of my homeschool. In an attempt to help me learn for the sake of learning (I love learning and enlightening myself to the world around me), my homeschool does not assign any grades, and therefore, no GPAs as well. In fact, my homeschool transcript does not even have the grades that I earned while enrolled in public schools; many A+s, admittedly along with a very small handful of Bs, have been turned into Pass/Fail grades. Now I realize that I’ve gone a bit off-topic, but I hope that you, and others, will be able to see the very strong drive to learn that exists inside me. I believe that I would be a strong applicant to top-tier schools partially because of the immense perseverance that I’ve developed over the years.</p>

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[QUOTE=Northstarmom]

What job, EC, community service experience do you have that could make you stand out?

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Although I am somewhat limited now as to extracurricular activities now that I am a homeschool student, while I was enrolled in public school, I had an extracurricular for just about every day of the week, each one unique and enlightening in its own respect. I will not list the long list of extracurriculars I have been involved with (the list is lengthened somewhat due to the fact that my two previous public high schools had some different extracurriculars), but I believe that my extracurriculars over the past few years have been strong. With not much in terms of resources at home, I found extracurriculars to be a “home away from home,” places where I could meet new people and explore new ideas while revisiting some old ones. Even as a homeschooling student, I still have an extracurricular that I am extremely passionate about along with a few extracurriculars that I very much enjoy spending time at.</p>

<p>Without a Social Security Number, I have not been able to work or drive, meaning that I was not able to take up a tax-paying job. While I was enrolled at the local public school, community service had also been difficult to obtain due to my extracurricular/academics-packed schedule, although I was able to pick up some enlightening service hours along the way. As an impoverished student volunteering to help other impoverished individuals (impoverished does not only apply to financial poverty here), I truly learned a lot about the problems that others face, which helped me to learn more about myself and my own condition. I regret the fact that it was not possible for me to serve the community in a larger capacity without severely straining myself. </p>

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[QUOTE=hmom5]

Flammy, I’ve read your posts for some time now and the theme is always the same: poor, poor, disadvantaged you. You have gone as far as to say that you are more disadvantaged than other ambitious kids.

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Thanks again for your quick response. I am not sure what you mean when you say that you have “read my posts for some time now and the theme is always the same” - out of the last 21 posts (the entirety of the posts that I have made so far), only a little less than half had anything to do with my disadvantaged situation. Despite this, I do not see anything wrong with me posting about this very topic, considering that my situation has had a very deep impact on my life in a way that has severely impacted my college applications.</p>

<p>You are correct in saying that I “have gone as far as to say that [I am] more disadvantaged than other ambitious kids.” Is not this statement most likely true? I can see what you might have been thinking, that even supposedly advantaged students shooting for the top-tier of colleges (students who are financially well-off, those who seemingly do not have any problems) have their own set of problems (perhaps relationships, morality conflicts, etc.), but are these disadvantages really that much more serious than mine? I am sure that many people would agree with me in saying that I am more disadvantaged than the majority of academically-ambitious students.</p>

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[QUOTE=hmom5]

All this makes me wonder where all the places you have lived are, because here in NYC and where I grew up in CA there are many, many kids who read just like you. I know kids who miss school a couple of days per week because they need the work hours to help their families. They are undocumented but find many ways to make money.

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I have had my fair share of earning money to support my family. Now, I am not undocumented as you might have assumed, and in that respect, perhaps I am somewhat advantaged, but unless those students are in a situation at least somewhat similar to mine and are planning to apply to top-tier universities, I do not see any reason to bring up the plight of these unfortunate individuals’ conditions.</p>

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[QUOTE=hmom5]

If you try to make colleges feel sorry for you they probably will, they will feel sorry that they chose not to offer you a place. They want lemonade, not lemons from their students with personal challenges.

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Perhaps you misunderstood the intention of my posts. I am definitely not trying to make anybody feel sorry for me; I am simply explaining my situation and asking for advice. I am not completely sure what you mean with the lemonade comment, but I will say that I have been able to overcome my personal challenges with strong perseverance.</p>

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[QUOTE=hmom5]

And where you ever got the 500 number for junior AP scholars…there are schools that produce hundreds of junior AP scholars.

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The number 500 was a rough estimate of the number of junior-year National AP Scholars in the United States (and perhaps around the world). I am not counting junior-year AP Scholars, AP Scholars with Honor, AP Scholars with Distinction, etc. I will take the initiative to point you to this Microsoft Excel spreadsheet:</p>

<p><a href=“http://professionals.collegeboard.com/profdownload/2008_AP_Scholar_Counts.xls[/url]”>Higher Education Professionals | College Board;

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[QUOTE=hmom5]

But you keep coming back to how different your situation is despite several very knowledgeable adults telling you there is nothing uncommon here. That you continue to think this is worrisome because that thinking is probably built into your essays and application.</p>

<p>You have not done your research if you think only top colleges give aid to internationals.

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I must say that I still believe that my situation is very different, definitely not “nothing uncommon,” despite the two adults that have explained to the contrary, one of which was not able to read my third post explaining a little more about myself.</p>

<p>I will concede to you that before Savs and frankchn pointed me to the possibility of a full-ride from my state flagship, I had forgotten that such a thing was possible. However, again, I would consider the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign to be a top school. I believe that you have erroneously assumed that I thought that “only top colleges give aid to internationals;” while I knew that many other schools give financial aid to international students, it has been my understanding that the vast majority of these colleges would not be able to give out near-full-rides to internationals looking for an education.</p>

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[QUOTE=hmom5]

That you even considered asking colleges to make an exception for you and offer you admission early tells me you’re not getting your hands firmly around reality here. I fear you will end up with few choices at best if you don’t gain some insight that is reflected in your application. The Questbridge non match should serve as a wake up call.

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Yes, the QuestBridge non-match has served as a wake-up call; in fact, it is the main reason why I decided to post this thread in the first place. I am sure that many, if not all, students have at least once “considered asking colleges to make an exception for you and offer you admission early,” although these individuals may not have had the initiative to publicly ask. As for myself, I am open to possibilities and have been told that no question is a bad question, and therefore, I thought it wouldn’t hurt if I merely asked this simple question instead of pondering about it on my own.</p>

<p>Anyway, thanks again for the opportunity to respond to your posts. I look forward to the chance to respond to more soon.</p>