<p>Heres how it goes for me. If i find the girl to be physically attractive and she has a decent personality then thats good for initial attraction. However for a % of black women they are some who have that loud, overbearing and ghetto personality which is a turn off for me. </p>
<p>That goes with any race i don't date white trash, hood Mexicans or ghetto blacks. I'm a preppy A&F black guy so for most black girls I'm not "hood" enough and thats fine because i seem to be naturally more attractive to white women. I am not opposed to other races though I date cutie's of all races. I love a variety</p>
<p>Kenshinsan, if you aren't attracted to someone physically for whatever reason, why would you want to date them? If they don't attract you, they don't. I'm not attracted to ghetto black guys, but that doesn't make me racist against blacks. It's my own personal preference. It doesn't make me racist. I'm not attracted to my friend Phil whatsoever, he's a great person, wonderful personality, sweet guy, but I'm just not attracted to him... but he's white, so does that make me racist against my own race? NO, DUH. It means I have a preference for guys physically and he does not fit into that preference. THAT IS NOT RACISM.</p>
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Are you not attracted to ghetto black guys because their ghetto or because their black. If its because their black your racist, if its because their ghetto your not, as you wouldn't like a ghetto white or asian either.</p>
<p>You seem not to be attracted to your friend Phil (probably has a crush on you by the way cuz u seem hot) because he is your friend not because of his race. If you weren't attracted to him solely because of his race and no other reason you would be racist.</p>
<p>No one is saying that you have to be attracted to everyone, that just that race shouldn't be a factor. Just because your walking on the street and don't find a black guy attractive doesn't make you racist. But if one of the reasons your not attracted to him is just because he is black you are racist.</p>
<p>Being racist in the dating sense is not that big of a deal, as you stated it is just a preference, though I find it stupid to not like someone because they are darker or lighter than someone else. Racism only concerns me when it affects negatively, such as in the hiring of a job, or in something else like that. Though I guess if I had a big crush on a girl and she didn't like me just because I was black that would concern me greatly, though I don't know how I could have a crush on a person like that in the first place.</p>
<p>The same argument has been iterated and reiterated over and over throughout this thread. NO ONE advocates that you date someone you are not attracted to. You don't have to "prove" you're not racist by dating someone black or brown or purple or green.</p>
<p>Racism, as it has been defined more than once, is discrimination based on race. Racism would be choosing not to date someone solely based on their race. You're not racist if you've never met a black guy you're attracted to. You are racist if you have, but have chosen not to date them because they're black.</p>
<p>In terms of people liking to date people of their own race more, I believe that has more to do with what you have in common with a person. IE, MightyNick, if you met a white girl adopted by an Indian family, would you still be opposed to dating her? Why/why not?</p>
<p>People keep trying to say that it's not racism, it's a preference. It's a preference based on race, which is a superficial factor. It's racism. Grow some balls, admit it to yourself. It makes you a racist. I'm sorry if that upsets you because "racist" is a label that holds a lot of social stigma. But part of being an adult is taking responsibility for your actions and accepting the consequences. If you make certain choices, you will eventually have to admit to yourself that you were being racist.</p>
<p>Seriously you guys just need to admit that you are racist in terms of dating. It's just sad.</p>
<p>Mightynick, does it anger you that I am dating an Indian girl since you know, we really aren't taking each other seriously(hahahaha) because you know, only people of the same race can date seriously.</p>
<p>Haha, no, Phil has a girlfriend and she is much more beautiful and amazing than I am, imo. They are going to get married and have lots of cute little ninja babies. </p>
<p>I would not not date someone just because of their race, but often cultural differences arise in the form of race. American Black people often have a much different subculture than the American white "dominant" culture. Not to say that there aren't black people who "act white", aka follow the dominant culture, or white people who act all ghetto, but In My Personal Experience, alot of white guys are the preppy type and alot of black guys are the ghetto type, and I'm not really attracted to the ghetto type which excludes alot of black guys. </p>
<p>People's definitions of attractiveness are their own, and everyone's is different. Being more attracted to one race is no different than being more attracted to a certain body type (curvy, skinny, athletic) or eye color or hair color. There's nothing wrong with preferences based on superficial factors, and it doesn't make anyone racist. Glancing past a black girl to look at a blond white girl doesn't mean you hate black people, it just means you like blonds....</p>
<p>I have tons of lovely friends and acquaintances from all corners of the world: a half Japanese Brazilian girl, my ex who is Honduran, Italians, Jews, Indonesians, Filipinos, Black Africans, Black Americans, White Americans, etc. There's no way you will ever get me to consider myself racist just because I may not be physically attracted to some of them.</p>
<p>I think this is the first time I've recognized in a few of the racism-geared posts (or whatever you want to call them) that people are making a distinction between just not being attracted to someone and they happen to be of a race other than yours (more importantly, even if you've never been attracted to someone of a certain race) and saying, "Wow, he/she is great, but they're [enter race here]. Oh well." </p>
<p>I totally agree with that distinction. Even though I'm still not concerned if someone does fit into the later of the two catagories. It's their life and their choice, after all.</p>
<p>My fault if that had been there before some of my previous posts concerning the original topic and I just missed it. I don't think it was, but I don't feel like reading through this thread again just to find out :)</p>
<p>Well obviously not being attracted to someone of a certain race is not racist. I'm not attracted to every white girl I see, just like I'm not attracted to every black girl I see. It's when you start seeing people not dating with someone simply because they are outside of their own race(and they are totally not attracted to anyone outside their race ever, EVER) that it becomes racist.</p>
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<p>LMFAO. I guess you edited your post after I said to move on and I didn't catch that sentence. If you really think I care about what you and your "friends" (and I think you're lying straight through your teeth on this one) think of me, you've got some serious ego issues. </p>
<p>Might want to lay off on watching Mean Girls this time, and actually post something that is useful and relevant to the discussion. And the fact that you find an anonymous forum an ego booster is quite sad. </p>
<p>Get over yourself honey. Not everything is about you, much to your chagrin.</p>