http://oue.utdallas.edu/aes/ Maybe UT Dallas?
@albert69 I have heard highly of the school and have checked it out. It’s definitely earned a spot on my list.
Yeah, sounds like you’ve got some good things going. I’m from NM and am going to KS for college, so I don’t think I’m too much help. There’s no need for you to come to NM to go to school lol, you’ve probably got far better places in TX. That National Hispanic could help as well as your already good scores and GPA. I’m relying on National Merit because I’m also in that annoying income bracket where we can’t really pay for it but we don’t qualify for need. I’m just lucky I’m in a state with a lowish cutoff - 210, I got 211 (whew!). I’ve got a full ride lined up at WSU in KS, and it looks like you’ve got some good options, just have to apply and go for the highest bidder.
@albert69 Congrats! Academics and Community Service are what I’m relying on for college. Never done sports. Have done a lot in the arts but nothing big. Highest bidder right now seems like the best route, but if I really want to or if something happens, I can go for a lower bidder.
A note: are you saying you intend to commute to be under the $10,000 mark?
What if you get a full ride scholarship?
If I get a full ride scholarship, I’d still have to consider other options. It would really depend on which school gave me that scholarship and if that school is what I want at that time next year. For instance, if UST gave me a full ride, my parents would insist on my going and because I also love the school, I would probably go. Does that make sense?
You are in a good place. You have good numbers and you have some schools you know that appear to be likely to offer you good merit money and you really like those schools; they meet your needs. So, as for the rest of your list, go right on ahead with the lottery tickets. Spend some time filling out scholarship apps and see what shakes out It the end you can lay it all out with your parents and decide what schools are worth how much and make the decisions then.
Have you looked into University of Dallas (NOT UT Dallas - which is very good but different) 
It is Catholic, small, and offers excellent scholarships! I know several students and graduates - sounds like a great school!
A little off-topic to OP’s query, but when it comes to some of the locations mentioned, I hope OP has considered the cost, in both time and dollars, of commuting from wherever the relatives’ homes are, since it’s unlikely they live close by the colleges in every case. Public transportation can be an unworkable option for someone on a school schedule, while for a driver the traffic in big cities can be daunting, and owning, maintaining, insuring, and parking a car can be expensive. Then there is the negative aspect of not being on campus in the evenings to participate in study groups and socialize (which can be a particular negative for a freshman trying to make connections), and having nowhere to go except the library all day when one has a class in the morning and many hours to kill until late in the afternoon. While it may sound great to be able to avoid the cost of room and board, there are many negatives to that approach.
Another caveat I feel I must mention. From some posts, it appears a few of the schools OP is considering are not at all selective, while she is quite well credentialed. This combination can be a recipe for unhappiness if her fellow students are not at her intellectual level and/or not as committed to and serious about their education as she is.
I was thinking along those lines, too - and really -it seems quite an imposition to plan to live with a relative for 4 years of college.
I was going to point out the $40K for Rice is purely for tuition. The room, board and other charges would bring that up another $15K.
Each of my kids applied to Rice and each got in with very large scholarships. However, even the kid with the most credentialed, knock-it-out-of-the-park stats, impressive extracurriculars, etc, got about 3/4 tuition from Rice, as I recall. The others got about 2/3 tuition, as I recall. Huge awards that we were very grateful for, truly. But they didn’t make Rice affordable for us, especially compared to the awards that each kid got at a lot of the other schools on their lists.
We always hear that Rice is so generous with scholarships. Have heard that for decades. And they are. The awards they gave my kids were definitely nothing to sneeze at. But, they weren’t as generous, in terms of remaining COA, as most of the schools on my kids’ lists, so neither of my kids attended.
At some schools, and depending on the balance of other applicants, it seems that sometimes National Hispanic Scholar will help a lot. My kids are not from an underrepresented minority. I don’t know how any of that plays out at Rice.
I think it’s great that you’re applying to Rice. It sounds like you feel super comfortable there. And it’s great that you have some backup plans. But I wonder if you’ve left some good ideas off your list. (I can’t help with major scholarships. They’re super hard to come by. The odds are so small! One of my kids got an outside scholarship for $5000 a year. None of my other kids got any. All had great stats. The ones that are not associated with need are just so few and far between.)
OP, I see that you’re not too hot on A&M. It sounds like you’re still going to apply there, though. That’s good. It’s a huge school, for sure. But it has a lot to offer those who want to go to med school (BIMS and other good majors, a very active Professional School Advising office, career counseling, honors, etc, plus a med school!). And it has amazing scholarships that can bring your cost down to nothing. In fact, if you get one of those scholarships, they’ll pay YOU to attend. And there are large subsets of the A&M population that have academic credentials like yours (and better). I mean, in a school of that size, you can always find your group of people, whatever that might mean. One of the advantages to a huge school is that there are people of all types in a population of that size. So, whatever your impression was during your campus visit, I’m wondering if it might improve on a more personalized visit. If you get one of the major scholarships I’m talking about, you’ll be set up with a personalized all-day tour, and it will probably get you a little more revved up for A&M. It’s close to home, though not close enough to live with relatives in Houston. But you won’t need to live with relatives if you have a free ride.
Texas Tech also has a few great pre-med options for those who know they want to go to medical school. Again, they’re very, very selective. And Tech is not ideally located for you, for sure. But it’s inexpensive and offers great scholarships to some kids with your stats. There’s a program there that allows for automatic admission into the Texas Tech med school after your undergrad, without an MCAT or any other Med School hoops to jump through, as long as you’re one of the few who gets selected as an incoming freshman, and as long as you jump through your undergrad hoops by taking certain classes, keeping a certain gpa, attending certain seminars, etc.
I’m just wondering if you’re closing off some good options by narrowing your field to schools that are near your family members. There may be a few free-ride options out there for you. And then it won’t matter where you live. And you WILL make friends no matter where you go to school. Most of the college kids i know, including my own, hang around with great friends that they made AFTER they left for college. That’s the norm, I think.
Good luck!