High schools

Not sure if this is the right place to post it please let me know if isn’t. I wanted to check about high schools my DD got accepted into RPS in NJ and Princeton day. The problem with Princeton day is they want her to repeat a grade because of her cut off age. I don’t like that. She is going into 8th grade I decided to apply a year early not in the 9th grade to cut back on all the craziness with high school applications. She likes both schools just Princeton day school a bit better. Also my son attends Princeton day. Any insight is appreciated

It’s not, but I moved to the correct place

I don’t have any knowledge of Princeton Day specifically, but I have experience with kids who are young (and old) for a grade. The kids who come in just at the age cutoff tend to struggle more with organization and social interactions, even if their cognitive abilities are high. I’d take the offer to have her repeat the grade.

I’d take it. Hopefully the schools (with which I’m not familiar) offer placement tests in enough disciplines that there won’t be a lot of repeat academics.

PDS can be a tough school for a kid who isn’t fitting in to their scene. If you have a middle or high schooler there, you probably know (better than someone on the internet) if she would be happy there. This may be their gentle way of guiding you away from a tough time socially.

If she doesn’t want to repeat, it may not be the place for her. You are lucky to be getting a year to investigate this. Did you look at Stuart? It’s a little gentler on the social front so maybe you wouldn’t get the same resistance. You might be able to apply late (but I have no idea if that’s feasible. )

If you want to do it this year without repeating or expanding your list, it looks like RPS. Personally, I would be reluctant to repeat at a day school if I hadn’t been entertaining the thought already. I

I am a fan of repeating for younger kids. I have seen, with two kids at boarding schools, that the younger or more immature kids have a much harder time socially. If a school is suggesting repeating they’ve seen something in your kid that’s a warning sign to them. They see a lot more kids than you do and they know the social scene at their school. Take their advice. Being young is zero benefit, being slightly more mature is a benefit.