<p>Hey, I'm gay :) I LOVE BEING GAY. Am i off-topic?</p>
<p>Non Sequitur:</p>
<p>Is it too controversial to talk about coming out in college essays?</p>
<p>A couple of things:</p>
<p>The advice to entirely avoid the South is a little out-dated. Yes, I probably wouldn't go to University of Alabama or Mississippi (I have a number of friends from high school who go to those schools and other big state schools in the Southeast and, while none of them are very homophobic, I do get the idea that you would probably find yourself in uncomfortable situations occasionally) but there are a number of schools (and cities) in the South where that isn't true. I go to school in Houston (Rice) and feel entirely comfortable. I've never felt any form of discrimination or anything less than full acceptance on this campus.</p>
<p>As to the issue of "flaunting" your sexuality ... I don't really know of anyone who wants to run around campus screaming "I'm gay!" at the top of his lungs, and I doubt that was the actual concern of the original poster. What is usually more of a concern, as it should be, is how comfortable you can be with being open about it. Sitting around at the dinner table or in a class discussion, would you feel the need to edit something you're saying to replace "boyfriend" with "friend" or "girlfriend." How comfortable would you feel publicly showing affection to your boyfriend in public? (And I'm not talking about indecent behavior, but rather little displays like hugs or holding hands or dancing together that no one would think twice about if it was a straight couple.)</p>
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Believe me, adcoms get more controversial topics than that. :rolleyes: </p>
<p>It really depends on which approach you take in your essay...judging by the large number of threads on your question, it seems to be a fairly common (i.e. clich</p>
<p>Good for you! You're gay! Have to be sarcastic with such a ridiculous topic. </p>
<p>Seriously, I know it is hard to come out of the closet, and it takes a lot of personal courage, but why exhibit it? If you want to have equal rights or discuss LGBT matters, go to most schools above the Mason-Dixie Line and you will not be treated with hostility. But exhibit gayness? What can I say?</p>
<p>And if it is a big part of your life, talk about it in your essays.</p>
<p>If you allow your sexuality to circumscribe your personality, then you are playing right into the palms of homophobes.</p>
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Uck. I am a gay (not yet openly) student, and I am just so sick of openly gay people who constantly look for new ways to flaunt their sexuality and rub it in other peoples' faces. "Display" your sexuality? Why can't you just BE who you are? Grow up. Your "I'm here to get help not be descriminated against" comment is so obnoxious; people like you just search for homophobia in every place that it is not and undermine others' legitimate claimes. And don't go crying homophobe at me, I'm gay and I'm okay with it, I just have no need right now to join the other gay students in my high school who chose to be absolutely defined by their sexuality rather than just letting it be a part of them.
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<p>Eh. I think though that searching for a gay tolerant environment is a legitimate thought. God knows how many hate related crimes based on differences in sexual orientation have occurred on college campuses. Heck, I wouldn't want to attend Texas A&M. The idea of college is that you can at least make friends and not be completely shunned from the student population. Flaunting homosexuality and just being able to be accepted and whatnot are two different things (I'm assuming the latter of the two, anyways.) </p>
<p>The New College of Florida is supposed to be great for gays, but I also hear that if you're that kind of creative type, The Evergreen State College is pretty easy to get into, kind of liberal, and pretty gay friendly.</p>
<p>studies show gay people are smarter and live longer than straight people</p>
<p>Maybe in your essay you can describe your first "experience" with a male and say how you felt... imagery is always good.</p>
<p>^Any decent source for that ?</p>
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Maybe in your essay you can describe your first "experience" with a male and say how you felt... imagery is always good.
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<p>Minus anything too "graphic." LOL. It obviously has to be in good taste.</p>
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<p>THANK YOU. The OP sounds like the type of guy who just WANTS to be victimized. There are always those type of people... just looking for any signs of homophobia. C'mon man no one was "discriminating" you. Augh. </p>
<p>And I don't know how smart of you is to be "flaming" about your sexuality. Dude if you're gay, that's your problem. Not anyone else's. If you're going to go and make a point of your gayness every 2 minutes, you are bound to get some problems wherever you go. Think of Activist Annie. Every person who brings something about themselves up (always the same thing) gets on everyone's nerves. Whether it's the fact that you're homo, poor, war veteran, a vegetarian, an anarchist, etc. </p>
<p>So I agree with whoever said be your own person and don't emphasize the fact that you're guy. The majority of people get annoyed by people who wear their religions on their sleeves. Guess what? Same rules apply to someone who wears their sexuality like that. Right now, you sounds extremely obnoxious. I don't mean that in an offensive manner but you really sound so immature.</p>
<p>But good luck.</p>
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Dude if you're gay, that's your problem.
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<p>Being gay isn't a 'problem' to anyone but homophobes.</p>
<p>But I agree. "Exhibit my sexuality".. lol what?</p>
<p>"may I ask why is it acceptable that people can flaunt being a "player", having many girlfriends, and so forth, but it's somehow unacceptable to flaunt one's sexuality if the orientation is non-straight?"</p>
<p>Those people are generally equally, or close to equally obnoxious. But at least they're not trying to find oppression everywhere.</p>
<p>bartleby:</p>
<p>flaunting being a "player" is not acceptable to me. It makes me sick and ****es me off.</p>
<p>it is acceptable because society is run by straight men. if society where run by the gays (btw I think the term "the gays" is funny, so I used it) it would be cool to like Liza Minnelli and take it in the butt.</p>