<p>You have good stats to get into good schools, but if you insist that only the very tippy top are good enough for you then that is boxing yourself into a corner. (Oh, I can’t ride in lowly Lexus or BMW, only Lamborgini or Limousines will do for me) Forget the Ivies, your father is right, you are not going to get in. The good news is that there are many, many excellent colleges that you will like as much or better and will do what college is supposed to do, educate you and help you mature as a person and find your dream life. Going to the college isn’t the dream life. That is just 4 years. There are many people living their dream life that did not go to Ives. (I was just reading some comments one Professor of CS at Brown University made about how grateful that Ohio Wesleyan gave him a scholarship and now he is living his dream life.) Spend your time learning about how really good other colleges are. Because you have such a strong SAT, the one you think is so hopeless, you have a good chance other places. It is the grades that are your main problem. But you will get into a good college. And you will have plenty of freedom from your parents when you get there.</p>
<p>If you don’t have a Fiske Guide, go and and get one right away and do some reading of the schools where your gpa and SAT match. You might also like Colleges That Change Lives, and they have a website too. Stop thinking that unattainable goals are the only way to be happy. Work on your treatment. Use this forum as it is meant, for search and selection. You should be in search mode right now. There’s a whole world out there you don’t even know about.</p>
<p>OK, I see that after all the pity party you did ask what colleges you can go to, but there are so many, you will have to narrow it down. What state are you in, how much money can your parents pay, do you know what you want to study, do you know what sort of environment or culture you want, big, small, rural, urban. all that. What do you even like? I still think you need to do some self assessment and reading about some colleges first.</p>