How do I handle the question "Do you party?" if I don't?

<p>What kind of college student doesn’t like to party? Say you like to party so you can actually have some fun?</p>

<p>Parties aren’t fun.</p>

<p>I think that’s up to the individual. For me, parties are fun, but only if I know the people there. If I don’t, then it’s not fun. I don’t go to parties much anymore, but I like to party with my friends.</p>

<p>Say no. ***.</p>

<p>There’s bound to be people at a college that are straightedge like you are. You just got to find them. Like one of my friends said, they’re usually the people awake in the early morning classes.</p>

<p>Chug chug chug chug</p>

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I think that’s up to the individual.

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Well, OF COURSE it’s up to the individual. In your first post, you made it seem like if you didn’t party, then you were automatically weird or lame. That isn’t close to being true, under any circumstances.</p>

<p>And in addition, this is COLLEGE we’re talking about, which is a place for education first and foremost. I’ll bet 1/4 or even 1/3 of all students don’t go to parties. You and your friends are not the center of the universe.</p>

<p>So take a look around; you’ll find all kinds of people, and their ideas of “fun” are just as valid as yours.</p>

<p>Just say you’re straightedge. Then people leave you alone. And yeah, collegebound91, people actually ask that. I’ve been asked that, I’m pretty sure. Either that or “do you drink.” Worthwhile friends will respect your lifestyle.</p>

<p>stupidest thread I’ve ever seen</p>

<p>Okay, I came into college EXACTLY like you collegefall09! I have been to exactly one big frat party (on a nearby campus, mine doesn’t have frats); I went with a friend that I met through a club, and it wasn’t a particularly good time, but I’m VERY glad I experienced it! I really would suggest trying a party once; that way, you can have an educated reason for why you don’t like it.</p>

<p>On that note, though, I am NOT a partier. I honestly met pretty much all of my friends through clubs (best thing I ever did was join two clubs on campus!) and classes, and while I go to parties sometimes with lots of people I know, it’s perfectly acceptable to hang out with people who’d rather stay in a watch a movie! If the people who ask “do you party” are worth having as friends, they won’t judge you for not partying or pressure you to do anything you don’t feel comfortable doing. When you get to college, it’s all about making friends with people who enjoy the same things you do, not going with the first crowd you meet!</p>

<p>“Not Really” seems to work on 98% of the people I have encountered.</p>

<p>Well, the majority of people who are “against” partying have never been to one, so if you have not, I highly suggest trying one. I was a bit skeptical when the party scene started up in my school, but once I actually tried…well, now I love them haha. But, if you have tried and are still adamantly against them, then just say you don’t. It’s better not to leave ambiguity in the minds of others.</p>

<p>I agree with some of the other posters that people worth having around will respect that you don’t party. Sure, a few might be turned off by your answer, but most that are might not be good matches as friends. I do party, as in I go to parties [I live in a college town/neighborhood], but I don’t drink or do drugs, and even though most of my friends do, they don’t have a problem with it. I even met some of my friends at parties and they are fun even outside of parties. Though it depends on the school, there really are people who don’t party yet are still cool, though it’s harder to seek them out.</p>

<p>I understand why you wouldn’t party, but I think some of the posters here are right that you should try going to a party once [if you feel comfortable, that is].</p>

<p>Maybe say “it depends what type of party it is.”</p>

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This is why I think the question is vague–I think some people would say that you don’t party.</p>

<p>I like to party a lot and if someone told me they didn’t I wouldn’t care at all, everyone is different. Just say not really and don’t over-think it.</p>

<p>Yeah, it is vague, but it’s intentionally vague. I mean, a lot of my friends go out to hook up instead of drink or they barely drink. I’d say partying involves meeting people, meeting people of the opposite sex, and hooking up in addition to drinking or doing drugs, though most of those activities ARE driven by alcohol, of course.</p>

<p>answer: “no thanks. i get high on internet webboard posting.”</p>

<p>Just do it…</p>

<p>Don’t go overboard…</p>

<p>Most of the world you will experience after college is determined by how well you can socialize. Practice this and see this as the other part of your education. </p>

<p>BTW 420 will pull you out of your stupid introverted shell.</p>

<p>it’s possible to do drop by party right? like you just hang out for like half an hour to an hour and don’t drink. but just chill and what not.</p>