<p>Hey everyone,
I will be going to college this fall. I've met a lot of really cool people at orientation that have similar interests, same classes, same major etc... However, I do not drink, do drugs or party and the majority of the people that I have met do. A few questions, how do you handle the question "Do you party?" if you do not and is it possible to be friends with people who do even if you do not. A few people have already asked me this question and the best I could do was give an answer that didn't go each way haha</p>
<p>I wasn't very social in high school and didn't have many friends so this wasn't an issue for me but I would like to have more friends in college and am afraid that it might be very easy for me to cave into peer pressure in college as a result.</p>
<p>If you’ve never tried going to a party it is at least worth a shot. Going out and having a good time isn’t going to hurt you as long as you stay smart about it, and if you don’t like it then it is just one night wasted. Once you have done it if you don’t like it remember what it is you didn’t like (there is usually a lot of noise while you like to just chill, you don’t like being around a ton of people you don’t really know, etc.) and theres your answer for “Why don’t you like to party?” The thing is, many college students spend a large portion of their time socializing through parties, and if you don’t do it then you probably aren’t going to be hanging out with people who do a whole lot. Luckily you ought to be able to find people like yourself that like to stay in. You do need to have some sort of social outlet though, be it through sports or clubs.</p>
<p>For a quick answer you might be able to get away with “It’s not really my scene,” but you’ll need to have some kind of answer when they ask what your scene is.</p>
<p>When i think of someone asking me if I like to “party” I think of either a hooker or someone offering me blow, but I watch too many movies (neither has happened to me).</p>
<p>Just tell people that you like to have fun (not a lie hopefully). I would stronlgy suggest checking out a few parties when you first get to school and maybe trying a bevereage or two. Most freshman will be going to parties, so you’ll meet a lot of people and maybe even like it. Don’t go too overboard, but if you don’t like it you can always stop going to parties.</p>
<p>It is possible to become friends with people who go to parties if you don’t. It might leave a negative first impression if you say that you don’t go out to parties when you first talk to a person (might come off as really nerdy or whatever) but first impressions tend to be shallow. You’ll make your real friends based on your interests and stuff, but you might as well try to have a diverse group of friends too.</p>
<p>Also, don’t think that just because you don’t drink or do drugs, you can’t go to parties. While I’m not going to lie and say that most of the other people will be drinking, you really don’t have to. By not giving parties a chance, you might miss out on memorable college experiences. You can always go and say you don’t drink, or go, get a drink and just carry it around, and never drink it. Sometimes it can be hard when people constantly come up and say, Why aren’t you drinking?, so that is a way to avoid it. But if you go with good friends who know you don’t drink, they should support your choice during the party.</p>
<p>I dont see what the big deal is. Lots of people like to hang out w/ few friends rather than partying. Nothing weird about that. But if you dont feel comfortable telling the truth, say something like “Every now and then. It depends on my schedule.”</p>
<p>I take it that the OP is an intelligent, well-rounded, but introverted person. There’s nothing wrong with being an introvert and having a small group of friends. I think when it comes to friends that quality should be priority, and not quantity.</p>
<p>As far as the partying goes, there’s nothing wrong with not being a party-goer. Nothing at all. There’s nothing characteristically wrong with you having a preference for smaller, more intimate, milder settings.</p>
<p>Let’s begin to realize that everyone is not the same and for those that do not fit the characteristics of the stereotypical college student are not in need of some therapy to correct their “lack.”</p>
<p>Usually its refering to drinking at social gatherings. It’s kind of a general question to see what sort of stuff the other person likes to do, though, so its pretty vague.</p>
<p>i’ve been in college for about 4 years now and i can’t remember ever being specifically asked if i party. i wouldn’t worry about what to say to that question… a no answer isn’t a terrible thing. (oh and i def enjoy parties).</p>
<p>Just say no. If they invite you to a party based on that response, answer in a way that makes you feel comfortable. They shouldn’t base you solely on if you party or not anyway. There’s plenty of people in college who aren’t the party types so if you feel that that group of people party all the time, I’m sure you can find others who don’t who are just like you. Then again, you can try going to a party and see if it’ll change your mind.</p>
<p>Yeah, I can’t think of any instance where somebody has asked me if I like to party.</p>
<p>It’s usually:
“I’m going to a party, do you want to come?”
“That party was lame.”
“I’m having a party. You can’t come.”
“I lost my underwear at that party. Can I borrow yours?”</p>
<p>My former roommate turned me off parties forever when he came back to our room afterwards and threw up in the trash can. A few weeks later, he did it again.</p>
<p>I have a bunch of friends who don’t drink at all and still come out to parties to dance and have fun. Just because you don’t drink or do drugs doesn’t mean you can’t go to parties and meet people, hang out with your friends, and just have a good time. One of my friends has never touched alcohol and she plays beer pong with the rest of us and its not like we are pressuring her or anything, she has fun playing lol. So I would say, check out some parties before you go making any opinions about them. At least then if you see what they are like and don’t find them interesting or fun then you can tell people that you tried it out and they just weren’t your thing. Its my philosophy to try everything at least once, if you don’t then how can you judge other people and what they do if you haven’t experienced it yourself. That being said, I’ve yet to do any drugs of any kind and I’m happy and having fun. I hope I didn’t ramble too much lol.</p>