<p>As the mother of a student who has weathered a friend's suicide (8th grade) and the shooting death of a classmate by another classmate (just prior to 12th grade) I can say that kids are resilient and resourceful and they can learn to deal with it in very healthy ways. One of the things that the senior kids did this year in dealing with the shooting death was to post messages on this boy's myspace site. The school also had the requisite memorial built and a tree planting several weeks later. My daughter and her friends also decided to honor his memory by volunteering in their community, which has led to a wonderful spirit of service among her group. Now, instead of complaining about early morning wake-up calls before her community service activities, she's awake, cheerful and out the door early! I agree with weenie that these kids will probably never be whole again, but they have learned to start the healing process in healthy ways and continue in activities that make them feel good about themselves.</p>