I called and left S a message that he should work out with fiancée about what is best for the two of them as a couple for the holidays. I’m hoping they’ll be together for the holidays for the 1st time ever since they’ve dated over 5 years.
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H’s sibling comments regularly about how far it is to our house. While we are visiting them. At their house. Funny, isn’t it the same distance both ways? 1 1/2 hours is sooooo far. It used to bother me, but now it’s ok that I don’t have to entertain them.
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I always called it the “one way road”.
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We have the same issue, “one way roads.” We have immediate family that haven’t seen our last 3 houses. One house was an hour from a sibling’s inlaws they visited often, so they could’ve just come for an afternoon. Now that we moved to the lake, everyone seems to want to come visit 
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My DH is one of five. Three live in CA and one, along with us, on the east coast. We don’t see each other over the holidays. We would travel west at least every other year (and often every year) when my in-laws were alive to see the family and spend time in the family vacation home. DH’s parents occasionally came east for the holidays, but usually visited at least once per year when there were work meetings.
There are 12 cousins in the next generation, most of whom are now married. There were 2 family weddings this year, 3 of five siblings at the east coast wedding, and four of five at the west coast one (we went to both). The last time, and I sadly think it may be the very last time, the entire family was together was at FIL’s memorial service.
I am one of 2, but both my parents came from families of 7. There are 18 in my generation on my dad’s side so it became impossible to continue to get together for holidays. On mom’s side, I am only close to 2 of my cousins (the others are much older and are not connected to the family). My sister and I alternate holidays and invite those cousins and their families. 24 for Thanksgiving, but likely to be much smaller for Christmas. DH’s east coast brother sometimes comes for Thanksgiving. I love large family gatherings, but have come to appreciate just having sister’s family and mine together for Christmas. It works as we live close to each other.
I don’t know what will happen when my kids and nephews (hopefully) have partners. It will definitely be more complicated!
Happy holidays to all.