<p>I am an older parent, and see a lot of changes in all this. The old-fashioned etiquette, if you will, was to carefully choose maybe 4-6 schools that a student might be interested in, visit, interview, and apply. There was a thoroughness and courtesy to the whole thing. Students only applied to schools they were absolutely sure they wanted to go to, and colleges, with fewer applicants, could also pay a lot of attention to applicants.</p>
<p>I suppose the Internet is one agent of change, as are all the guide books and other books in the college guide section.</p>
<p>There seems to be almost a gambling mentality: find schools online that may meet your criteria, apply to the largest number of schools that you can manage, see what your results are, visit then, and decide.</p>
<p>While this seems practical in terms of the student's and family's time and energy, it does sort of skew the whole process, and contributes to the admissions frenzy.</p>
<p>People talk about lack of "transparency" and "predictability" on the school's end, but the same is increasingly true of students. The schools can't possibly be assured an applicant will accept the acceptance, when everyone is still in a research mode, AFTER admission.</p>
<p>I understand why people are visiting after results are in. I have gone through this with two kids, and it is stressful and tiring. But we do try to visit every school before the application goes in, try to keep schools down to 4 (6 in the case of a student applying to both colleges and conservatories), and generally not participate in the craziness of this whole thing.</p>
<p>I guess I think that it is not courteous to apply without a visit, unless money for travel is absolutely an issue. Each applicant is sort of out for themselves, and the whole system suffers. If everyone applies only to a few schools that they truly want to attend, the admissions process will become more sane and less stressful for everyone.</p>
<p>Hey, as I said, I'm in my late 50's. Things really used to a lot easier emotionally for everyone involved in college applications, despite the need for travel.</p>
<p>One other thing: starting off by visiting an area with a few different types of schools is a great suggestions. We visited Amherst MA first with both our kids: there are 5 schools in that area, all very different: big public, small liberal arts, funky experimental, single sex etc. That saved us a lot of travel later, because it helped clarify things from the start.</p>