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I think strict parenting backfires a lot. Most times, parents try and run kids lives and the kids end of being whores or doing things that they know will **** of their parents.
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<p>I agree 100% and a little more.
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<p>At orientation for college, i've never seen so many parents who, if they could, would live their kids lives for them. We stayed in the dorms over night, and there were parents who wanted the number to be able to call the room directly to make sure their kids were picking out classes to sign up for the next day. And during the first day, they seperated parents from the kids to go and get different presentations. A parent stayed with her kid in our group. And since "he" had the same major as me, we were in an even smaller mini group of 4 kids. When we were sitting there, his mom kept asking questions about classes. After most every class, he'd say "MOM! i don't want to take that class; i don't even want this as my major" and in a lot more words, she said "i know what you want, you don't". </p>
<p>Then, in the same mini group, when we were talking about dorms, and i asked if we would have a curfuw for that night. His mother, who doesn't work for the school, said we couldn't go out. I don't know if she meant to say it to her kid only, but said that ALL of us couldn't. Then our orientation girl said that there was no curfuw, and we didn't even have to sleep in the dorms if we didn't want to. At this point i was starting to get a little peeved at the mother, so to push her buttons, i asked where was the closest bar and if they had anything going on tonight. If looks could kill i wouldn't be here. </p>
<p>to make an already long story short, the kid stayed in his dorm room all night looking at class schedules choosing what classes "he" wanted to take, and where ever i saw him(his dorm was connected to mine) he was on the phone near tears talking to his mom. i even asked if he wanted to go out with me but said he couldn't. i went out with a frat i think i'm gonna rush, and they showed me a <em>gooooood</em> time. i woke up hung over, and went with the kid to pick classes at the lab. (it's like a race, they opened up the system to pick classes at 1:50, and once they filled the slots that class was closed). i got all the classes i wanted(mostly the same classes he wanted, upper level classes) at the BEST times. (i don't have to get up before 9, only have one class on wed. and fri., and even lined them up so the buildings weren't far apart just for fun). i was done in about 4 minutes because i knew you had to beat everyone. he was on the phone with his mom, and i finished, and had already left before he had one class picked out.</p>
<p>to all the parents, you're not helping your kids at all by micro managing their lives. even if you mean well, their going to crash and burn once you're not there
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<p>i feel much better</p>