<p>Might want to get that needle off the scratch in that broken record…</p>
<p>Post #459, that was my initial response to the condescending tone of your post. One should never make assumptions that 55 year old female can only attract 55 year old male.</p>
<p>You may wish it were so, but realistically speaking it is much easier for a guy to get a younger woman (say 10-15 years younger) for a normal relationship, than for a woman to get a younger guy.</p>
<p>Maybe because women don’t WANT younger guys?? Blech. I sure wouldn’t.</p>
<p>And then there are the sugarmommas and cougars <a href=“http://www.sugarmommadatingsite.com/”>http://www.sugarmommadatingsite.com/</a> <a href=“http://www.sugarmommamate.com/tag/rich-cougar/”>http://www.sugarmommamate.com/tag/rich-cougar/</a> where they can find additional boy toys. </p>
<p>I’m sorry to disagree with you but my two aging aunts married somebody 10 years younger. Maybe that’s why the last marriage last. My husband is older than me and I like him much better than any body younger, he also looks young too, but honestly I have no problem attracting somebody much younger, like 10-15 years. Being immature helps. 
Same with my husband, who also has a very sexy accent, and I remember some very attractive 16 years old girl that were friends with my daughter from high school, always liked him and commented on his sexy accent. Whenever she’s in town and we ran over at Target I noticed her eyes looked up when she heard his voice talking to me, even before I recognized who she was. No money was involved. But it might gives his ego a bit of a boost, still yucky if you know what I mean, like the movie American Beauty.</p>
<p>My husband is younger than I am. Guess that makes me a… oh never mind :)</p>
<p>My first boyfriend, who became my fiancee, was two years younger than I was. Then he dumped me, so I decided to go with older guys. I was 22 and my future husband was 30 when we met. He wandered around during his 20s and worked as a finish carpenter, teacher, and lumberjack. He lived on a commune in Alaska that had no electricity or running water. His years of experience have really come in handy. We met when he went back to grad school. I had gone straight through - BS to MS. We joke that if he had to drop out of college the first time and wander around so that I could grow up to be old enough for him. He just turned 60, which shocks everyone, because he still looks 50 or so. He runs 6 or 7 days a week. :)</p>
<p>Slowly I am getting the idea. Women will have whoever they darn well want, younger, same age, or older, and nobody may challenge them. Equally, men will have whoever women decree for them, which in particular means nobody younger. </p>
<p>Eventually, I may be enlightened enough to be an ex-creep.</p>
<p>sorghum, where have you been? This is America. Women is also number one on the ladder, after that it’s the kids, and dogs. :D</p>
<p>And we don’t look our age. Have been to several HS/College reunions. Noticed that the women consistently seem to have aged better than the men, and am assuming most if not all have not had “work done”.</p>
<p>^That is the truth! I could recognize almost all of the women at my 30th HS reunion. The men were a different story! </p>
<p>Maine, I have not being back to any HS reunion so I don’t know. My husband is a runner so that’s explain why he is the same as your husband. He said he read recently running is the best sport, provided one doesn’t go crazy but a 30 minutes run a day is best.</p>
<p>Yes, I really think that running is the secret to staying young. It has sure helped me! And I am NOT built to run, but I do, anyway. When people say, “Oh, I couldn’t run…” I tell them that my physical therapist literally CHUCKLED when he watched me run on the treadmill! </p>
<p>In a trance, they erase all memory of this “SB” fiction from their minds.</p>
<p>I really wanted to love running. I trained for a 5K a couple of years ago. My personal best before the race was 35 minutes. I finished the run in 30 minutes, 20 seconds. It felt great to achieve a goal. But honestly, I hated every minute. After I had neck surgery, my doc told me I should probably find a different sport and I was relieved.</p>
<p>I think some people are just born runners. They just cannot NOT run. Those are the types who say things like “and all of a sudden, I realized I’d run 7 miles already.” They walk around in some special “happy place” after a long run on a fall morning. They talk about 3 mile “warmups” before their *actual run *. They show up at my facility for a procedure with a resting heart rate of 40 and tell me that it’s that high because they are a little nervous. They look so good, I always think there is a typo on their DOB.</p>
<p>You know the type. ;)</p>
<p>Yeah, that’s not me! You had a great time for a 5K! That’s almost my exact PR, back when I was running a bunch of miles per week. Yes, some people definitely have reasons they shouldn’t run.</p>
<p>I have actually been stopped by a “good Samaritan” who was worried by the way I looked when I ran! I must have looked half-dead. Sigh. </p>
<p>MomofWildChild is one of those runners you describe, Nrdsb4! But the nice thing about the running community is that the good runners encourage the rest of us! </p>
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<p>But, I am not you. And you are exhibiting the basic issue with this thread and the erroneous information in it. </p>
<p>People are looking at SDs and SBs, as if it were them and because posters cannot see them consciously being part of such a relationship, they think no way others can. This explains why many posts are so inaccurate. People put their lives, as the defining limit of others’ lives, as if their lives are the arbiters of what other people do. Sorry, your life is not someone else’s and someone is not acting based on what you do in your life.</p>
<p>It is also interesting how many of these comments explain why SDs do what they do,.ie., seriously interview SBs. </p>
<p>An SD does not want an SB who does not understand what it means to do what he does. The last thing an SD wants is some naive SB around his friends and his environment. </p>
<p>The SDs that have airplanes, specifically want SBs who are used to private travel or are not smitten by it. She has to be comfortable and normal in the airplane around his friends. SDs who race cars want an SB who either likes sports cars or likes to the significant-other events happening around the track.</p>
<p>And maybe this is why I get what SDs do once I learned what was really happening. I have always screened girlfriends based on making sure we have common understandings of things. I understand if you never did not. OK. However, I did. I even screened potential girlfriends for their politics (SDs do this as well) because I know how seriously I take what I believe religiously and politically. Last thing I would care to do is fight about raising kids etc., so I screened. I am upfront about that as it comes.</p>
<p>In general, everyone screens everyone else for certain traits. Therefore, to think that people who do non-standard things do not screen for people who would be comfortable there is a fallacy. Some screen further than others, but everyone does it. I am just happy as heck that I got lucky to find someone who I was compatible with based on what I believe and expect in a family. </p>
<p>The above said, I understand your operating premise that if you cannot see yourself doing something, then you use that as a limit for others. I disagree with that approach, but I respect that it must work for you in your life. It would not work for me in my life though for I cannot fathom judging what you do based on what I do and believe. I do not even get the logic. But, it seems to work for you. </p>
<p>My DH is a runner. One of those who meets friends and runs 17 miles “for fun”. Good thing I already look younger than I am because with our age difference he already is and look young (ish) comparatively. He is just beginning to get some grey hairs and is quite bothered by it.</p>
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<p>LOL. Yep, that’s the type I was talking about. He probably gets grumpy if he has to go a few days without running, doesn’t he? :)</p>