You are me. I have one at Alabama where my OOS tuition is $3k a year or so. He got into Purdue with $10k merit but chose Bama…for engineering. I’d rather he went to Purdue but he is saving me $20k a year. And Purdue is affordable whereas the $80k a year schools to me aren’t.
When I asked WUSTL when they pushed ED and I asked what if I don’t like the offer and they said if you can’t afford it we’ll release you. I asked…it’s not whether I can afford it…it’s what if I don’t want to afford it ? Sounds like you.
My daughter is at College of Charleston. She is on free tuition (OOS)….not all would get but they can get aggressive beyond the $12k they publish. She got into Washington & Lee which is $81k COA vs her $16-18k it’s costing me for the Dorm and other stuff. No doubt W&L is more prestigious and may lead to better outcomes but I didn’t have to even suggest it was off the table after we didn’t get merit.
Don’t know your academics etc but people act like spending $70 or 80k a year is no problem. But it’s a lot of money with no guarantees, even if you go to a top school. There are so many great colleges that have auto merit, Honors Colleges and more. And no doubt many families strap themselves financially, loan up their kids and for what ? I can’t imagine the stress. And what if investments have gone bad ? I do have a financial problem. I saved too much in the 529 plan…a problem that’s good to have.
It’s an individual call and again I don’t know your students #s or desires but there’s many publics with auto merit (Arizona, Arkansas, Bama, Mizzou, Arkansas, UAH, Murray State to make a few)…many with great merit…U of SC, Miami Ohio. aZ State, Florida State and more……and privates with great merit like Hofstra, Bradley, DePauw. And then more affordable schools at full pay like Florida, Purdue and private such as Elon.
It’s all a personal call but if your student is strong and you want to save money…and think about what that money can grow to over time….you will have opportunity.
If you want to chase pedigree and are comfortable with the spend, then you can do that. But when you say we’ll look at the highest rank what you are doing is falling for marketing because there are Ivy caliber students at just about every flagship in the country. Rankings are a marketing gimmick. I know some schools are better than others but do I know that Vanderbilt will provide a better experience to a child then neighboring and not ranked Belmont ? No.
But if you don’t see the value…and I as a parent don’t…you can save. I’m impressed by the various activity my daughter partakes in at Charleston…they have wonderful leadership, networking, and social opportunities. She’s always busy. I see less of this at Bama but that’s more likely my son is an introvert and as an engineer is always studying and/or hiking. And btw which school has the most national merit finalists in the country…presumably all smart kids….Bama.
Good luck. If you apply to a mix of schools, you’ll buy yourself time before having to decide. We did 21. With the common app, it’s not as onerous as it sounds unless you only apply to high pedigree schools. But the big thing is make sure you choose schools where you are above the average student for your best chance at merit should you apply to schools where it doesn’t happen automatically.
Good luck.