TASP is not a STEM program, so I would eliminate that.
For the others, I believe practically all will have qualification information on their websites. So you should start there. Some are really only for rising seniors, like SSP, TASP and MITES, and perhaps some of the others.
I know about the math programs. Canada USA is probably the toughest, entrance is based mostly on a qualifying test and recommendations. Contest results could help a little, but over all the test is most important and it comes out in January. Keep in mind that there is a less than 15% admit rate and you will be competing with some of the very best math kids in the country. I know a 12 year old kid who has completed calculus through multivariable, linear algebra and is working on real analysis, with strong contest results already. He is hoping to attend next summer, so that gives you an idea of what is out there! Being a female will certainly help you a bit but you do have to do a good job on the program based test. Check their website for last year’s qualifying quiz and see if that is something you’re ready for.
You could also consider SUMAC at Stanford, basically the same deal with more restrictions on what you will study.
PROMYS, Ross and Texas Honors Math Camp are all number theory only, so make sure you like number theory! Ross is probably the most unstructured and also the most prestigious of those number theory camps. All require an entrance test except Texas which looks at grades, standardized test scores if you have them, recommendations, etc.
RSI is super prestigious, focused on research, extremely difficult to gain admission, and will have kids in all areas of STEM.
Personally, in terms of math, I like the format of Canada USA the best, and it will have the most talented students. Just my humble opinion.
For science, SSP is fantastic especially if you don’t mind staying up all night working on asteroid orbits and monitoring telescopes. You’ll need SAT scores I think and chemistry and physics, and most will have done those plus calculus at the AP level by the end of junior year.
Best of luck!