Take a deep breath. Take another one.
You’re doing great.
Important points:
A. You are a freshman - it’s too early to be freaking out about which college you will attend.
B. You have a 3.9 GPA, which is a great GPA, so there is nothing to worry about. You are in the top 1% of all students.
C. Take as many APs and honors classes as you feel will still allow you to produce quality work. Avoid piling up APs, and then drowning in work. Colleges are not looking for students who take as many APs as they can. There is no benefit in taking more than 10 total, and even 8 are more than enough, so long as you take the most important ones for your interests. This is where you need to speak with your GC to help you plan the best curriculum for you.
D. Avoid taking too many ECs, in too many directions. Focus on two or three which you love and in which you can engage yourself. Again, there is no benefit in doing 25 ECs. figure out the ones you love the most, or about which you feel the most passion, and pour your energy into them.
Don’t choose ECs based on what you think will look good on your resume. Choose ECs based on what you feel you would like to accomplish while in high school. Every one of the ECs that you have has the potential for you to achieve great things, so long as your don’t think of “doign ECs” as your purpose. You purpose should be “learning engineering”, “helping girls be empowered”, “forwarding the interests of Black Students”.
E. Community colleges are great places for many people. They are not Deep Pits Of Despair. Most students who attend community colleges do so because that’s what they can afford, NOT because they are stupid. Many are also unprepared, because the high schools which are available for poor people are so badly funded, that they cannot provide a decent education. However, these are also people who are beating the odds to simply attend college.
Many kids with financial issues also take almost all of their gen-eds and basic requirements at a community college, and transfer to a four year college as Juniors, and graduate with a degree from the four year college.
Do NOT run your entire four years of high school based on a silly fear that all you need to do is slack off for a moment and that will cause you to tumble down into the Abyss Of Horror.
My daughter spent her sophomore year engaged in too much navel gazing, but she is still attending an “Elite” Liberal Arts College. Getting a couple of Bs or even a C will still leave 80% of all colleges out there within your reach. Getting a mix of As and bs and a couple of Cs will still leave you with a GPA which would allow you to be accepted by many great colleges.
So you have nothing to fear. you are far from your worst case scenario and even your worst case scenario isn’t all that bad.