<p>the dynamics are different because there are less trolls and as a result people here seem more thin-skinned. people here are all around the same age and asking honest questions about college life, while other forums are usually an array of random people of different backgrounds talking about random stuff, which i think is more conducive to trolling since it’s more anonymous.
but people here get pretty heated and i definitely see trolls taking advantage of that, but there are enough “normal people” around acting like they normally would, not putting on an e-persona, that the trolls don’t seem to have much effect</p>
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i have no idea how you could even begin to infer that from my post.
i’m not implying anything, i’m saying that
and who are you to say that intellectually stimulating conversation doesn’t take place? another example of the “all college parties are frat parties” mindset</p>
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Of course, I agree that not all parties are like that and there may be some parties wherein intellectually stimulating conversations take place, but let’s face it, the overwhelming majority of college parties are frat parties. </p>
<p>When your typical college student intends to attend a party, they aren’t intending to have engage in intellectual discussion and meet but are rather looking to get drunk and for a hook-up. Your entire argument is predicated on the fact that not all parties are “frat” parties, which is true, but the reality is that most party-goers are not looking to engage each other in intellectually stimulating activities. Call it a generalization, but it is a warranted generalization. </p>
<p>Even then, the type of people who throw parties that are not similar to your typical “frat” parties usually only invite a few close friends and leave it at that.</p>
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<p>Woah nice answer. Yeah, this is a place where you can get thoughtful advice hopefully. Insensitivity is not really tolerated. Certain types of ■■■■■■ certainly have their place though.</p>
<p>my entire argument is that people who haven’t partied should give it a try rather than say “oh, i KNOW it’s not for me.” someone said something about not liking frat parties, so i said there are other parties. that’s it and that’s all. i wasn’t trying to make the argument you’re arguing against. this is what we call a straw man.
and no, not always just a few close friends, but several friends and acquaintances. i know because i’ve done it and because i’ve met (and had intellectually stimulating conversations with) people at these smallish parties.
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<p>you use the words “most,” “majority,” etc. that’s cool, but maybe my advice is for the minority. you know, the type of person that posts on internet forums about college life.</p>
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on any other forum my last post would have been hostile, hahah. but here i trust that the majority of people are sincere so it’s not as easy to rail on someone, especially for no good reason.</p>
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<p>There are many other forums more similar to this one than the ones you seem to be familiar with, just so you know :p.</p>
<p>"Of course, I agree that not all parties are like that and there may be some parties wherein intellectually stimulating conversations take place, but let’s face it, the overwhelming majority of college parties are frat parties.</p>
<p>When your typical college student intends to attend a party, they aren’t intending to have engage in intellectual discussion and meet but are rather looking to get drunk and for a hook-up. Your entire argument is predicated on the fact that not all parties are “frat” parties, which is true, but the reality is that most party-goers are not looking to engage each other in intellectually stimulating activities. Call it a generalization, but it is a warranted generalization."</p>
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<li><p>People don’t go to parties to be drunk sluts. People go to parties to hang out with their friends, to make friends. Drunk sluttiness happens at parties, but most people don’t go to parties for the purposes of being a slut. I didn’t like partying in HS because of the clique mentality of it all, but that goes away in college. No one judges you for being at a party, and most importantly people won’t judge you for not drinking. Most people are too busy socializing to really care if someone isn’t having a drink. </p></li>
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<p>I think if you went to a house party when you get to college, it will probably dispel your assumptions about college parties. It’s a good idea to try–if you really don’t like parties, at least you can legitimately base your opinion on your own experience. College is a time to try new things. If you don’t like it, there’s no harm in leaving it alone. There are plenty of other things in college that can occupy your time.</p>
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<p>By that logic, I shouldn’t be able to judge people for eating faeces and call them disgusting.</p>
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<p>Of course it’s human nature, did I say it wasn’t? Why bother putting words in my mouth to prove your point? What exactly makes me a hypocrite?</p>
<p>It’s also human nature for men to hook up.</p>
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<p>I have no idea why you’re trying to insult me. Frankly, it’s hilarious. You claim that I need psychological help because I have issues trusting people. So what? Why is that such a big deal? Why does it mean that I need help? What does trusting people have anything to do with being a slut?</p>
<p>You are like a child. You attempt to insult people who disagree with you with absolutely no provocation. It’s really quite sad.</p>
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<p>We’re the same, but that’s not why I dislike partying. I dislike partying because I’d rather not deal with drunk people puking everywheree.</p>
<p>I do like social gatherings, but not like the stereotypical college ones. I’ve already been to a few parties during high school, and I heard stories. Not for me.</p>
<p>Most people at parties are just moderate drinkers. I have no problems with people like those. It’s just the binge drinking and the hooking up I have problems with.</p>
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<p>You insinuated that those who do not engage in activities that are the supposed “embodiment” of human nature are less evolved. Ironically, here you are denouncing the same people who actively participate in socializing, but according to the logic of your previous post, they should be the most evolved. </p>
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<p>Shouldn’t you be promoting it then, just like you were projecting your beliefs on socializing and its importance on other users? Clearly, according to the post of yours I quoted, men who hook up the most and party the most in college are the most evolved? </p>
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Stop lying. I did not say you needed psychological help, I only stated a fact based on your own words, that you have trust issues and a lack of social skills, do you not? </p>
<p>And if you don’t like other people telling you to seek help, why do you say it to others? Remember [URL=<a href=“http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/13025417-post65.html]this[/URL]?Classic”>http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/13025417-post65.html]this](<a href=“http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/13103668-post187.html]quote[/URL”>http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/13103668-post187.html)?Classic</a> example of throwing stones from a glass house. So, please don’t try to play the victim now. </p>
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The fact you insulted me negates the point you were trying to make here. And no, I don’t insult, nor attempt tom those who disagree with me. I am just disgusted by hypocrites that love to force their narrow minded beliefs down other people’s throats.</p>
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<p>There’s a huge, huge difference between not having friends at all and socializing to the max. It seems you are unable to understand that. You represent one side of the extreme and the drunk party lovers represent the other side.</p>
<p>Furthermore, I have never outright stated that it was a bad thing to be less evolved. While I may have said it was a bad thing to not have any friends at all, I never said it was a bad thing to be less evolved.</p>
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<p>I didn’t say I didn’t like other people telling me to seek help. Your argumentation method consists of constantly putting words in my mouth to prove yourself right, which shows how incompetent you are.</p>
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<p>I meant no offense at all. It was a mere statement.</p>
<p>You call ME a hypocrite? You’re the one who argues with absolutely everyone about friends being useless. This is just hilarious, you’re probably the worst hypocrite on this entire forum by your definition.</p>
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<p>This entire thread consists of you shoving your opinions down people’s throats. Don’t deny it. We both know it’s true. </p>
<p>You have to be a ■■■■■. Your entire posts are filled with vacuous emotional polemics that consist of contradicting yourself and putting words in my mouth. I don’t think anyone can be this incompetent, and therefore, you must be a ■■■■■. I’m done with you, because arguing with a ■■■■■ means giving you what you want.</p>
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Do you really mean to tell me that calling someone “less evolved” is not an insult but a neutral statement? Are you really that daft? </p>
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I’m not putting words in your mouth, these are your own words and sometimes I’d make logical inferences based on the clear implications from you post. For example, in this post:
Do you suffer from convenient amnesia? Or are you going to attempt to say that you didn’t find my post referencing your psychological illness, despite the quote above that demonstrates you took it as an insult? </p>
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I didn’t mean any offense in your psychological problems, and yet, you took it as offensive and insulting. More hypocrisy, it seems. </p>
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<p>FYI: I was arguing against people forcing their opinion on me that I need friends. I was defending myself, not projecting my opinion on others. Notice how I never insulted nor projected on those who have friends? </p>
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Not at all. Perhaps you do not understand what it means exactly to shove one’s opinion down others’ throats? I was merely defending myself and my preference for not having friends, while it was the majority of other users attacking me rather than addressing my original problem. </p>
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I did not put words in your mouth, your quotes are crystal clear and they contradict the points you make a few days later in newer threads. </p>
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<p>Students of the Ivies, Swarthmore, Stanford, Reed, Carleton, Haverford, Bryn Mawr, UChicago, etc. all have all different kinds of parties regularly. Partying and maintaining good grades are not mutually exclusive. I’ll unwind with a group of friends on a Friday night, then study during the day Saturday so I can go to a party that night.</p>
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<p>Considering that people contract parasitic and bacterial infections from eating feces, no I would not say that it’s the same by that logic.</p>
<p>Try making a legitimate argument instead of trying to seem smart. The reason why no one is taking you seriously is because a) you’re making snarky remarks instead of actually providing legitimate reason behind your thoughts, and b) you haven’t been to college and lack legitimate reasoning for your beliefs on college students and their social reactions because you’re NOT in college.</p>
<p>You tried to argue that anyone that brings loads of stuff to college are delusional/silly, and when other students commented on how the amount of things people bring to school doesn’t make them a lesser person, you made snarky remarks as if you know everything about moving into school :\ just accept that you’re not always going to be right, especially with things that other people have more experience with.</p>
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<p>Total lol @ this thread. Calm down there ladies…</p>
<p>Djamieson -I feel that having a social life does not equate to partying.</p>
<p>I’ve never enjoying partying myself and I don’t see what is so fun about getting drunk, making a fool of yourself and listening to loud annoying autotuned pop music. I think that it is dull and most people at these types of stereotypical parties are immature. To be honest, I prefer hanging out with a few of my close friends, doing things like staying up late talking and watching a horror movie or something.</p>
<p>These preferences do not mean one is necessarily introverted or shy. I think it equates to more of a maturity by choosing not to be influenced by peer pressure and doing “what everybody else is doing,” AKA getting intoxicated or high. </p>
<p>I think that one could definitely use their time better in college on experiences such as sports, extracurriculars and academics. </p>
<p>@ThatCanadian - This thread is over 3 years old. Please pay attention to the date on previous posts before responding. </p>