We have always had King sized bed. In the beginning, it was a soft sided water bed that really only had queen sized area unless you wanted to be at the foam/water edge. Before hubby got a CPAP machine, I used to be annoyed by his snoring … but I’d tell myself, “there are widows around the world that would give anything to have snoring in the bed again.”. This winter due to a Covid scare I had to spend some nights in the guestroom. It was OK, but I prefer being back in our room. Perhaps it helps that I go to bed earlier, usually am asleep before hubby gets there.
During our recent vacation (ha, which makes its way into so many threads) there was no King room available. They said they had pushed the two doubles together - WOW that was wide! Having read reviews about the hard mattresses I knew to ask for a bed topper. Wonder if they are special order since the straddle both beds.
Was that a European hotel? Oftentimes, their definition of a double bed is two skinny ones pushed together. One of us was always sliding in the “crevasse,” and then the beds would slide apart, so Mr. got creative and used my PT rubber band to tie the beds together. I could no longer do my PT exercise, but we slept much better! The next time we went to Sweden, we came prepared and brought zip ties. After that, I decided to research American hotel chains… and a queen bed was secured!
We slept in a double x long bed for many years because husband is 6’7 and we started out in marriage with his old bed! Have had a queen for many years, never a king. Don’t sleep apart at home but sometimes book two queen beds in a hotel, a couple of times a king bed. Just to mix it up some since many times not more expensive and we’re paying!
Everyone’s comments are making me smile, laugh and nod my head “yes!”
@ClassicMom98 , I also LOVE sleeping on a comfy couch. I’m going to my daughters this weekend and it’s the only sleeping choice but I look forward to it!
Our first 10ish years of our marriage we had an antique bed with a specially made mattress because they are technically not quite FULL!
We have had a king on vacation a couple of times and it was great - except for the snoring - I brought ear plugs but don’t love wearing them!
My husband and I sleep separately probably 75% of the time. I need dark and quiet to fall asleep and he can not fall asleep without some sort of visual/aural stimulation- usually the tv. It works for us- we recently celebrated our 20th anniversary.
We’ve tried a few variations, starting with sharing a twin or full size for several years, then saving up for a king bed. In our 30s we had a king soft side waterbed for a few years.
The next bed was a traditional king. By then, H had finally done a sleep study and started using a CPAP. The noise didn’t bother me after several years of him waking me by gasping for air, but I don’t like when the blows in my face. Next we tried two queen beds separated by a wide nightstand. I liked that best, but H did not.
Now we have a king platform bed. I miss the two queens but will wait until I can find bed frames on casters that can be joined at the top and swung apart easily to make up the beds. I designed our bedroom so we have enough space for two queens and two wide nightstands.
We’ve slept separately when I had to sleep in a recliner after surgery or when I had terrible congestion. One of us wanting to read in bed used to be an issue until we got Kindle Paperwhites and didn’t need a lamp.
I’m a night owl, DH is a morning person. I will sometimes sleep in a different bed (maybe 2-3 times per month) if I am going to bed REALLY late so I don’t wake DH up. Occasionally, we go to bed at the same time, but I’m usually reading/shopping/opining on CC, or maybe even watching TV, on my Kindle (with my earbuds)
We have a king size sleep number bed. The air chambers are split so DH doesn’t feel a thing when I move. For the light, I just turn the brightness down all the way which is most comfortable in a dark room anyway.
We’re in a queen. I generally am the last to go to bed, and if there’s snoring going on, my spouse gets a nudge to use a kleenex. That will usually fix things long enough for me to fall asleep, and then the snoring doesn’t wake me. I do need absolute darkness, so I wear a sleep mask for that. I like being able to reach over and feel someone (and get some extra heat…I run cold).
We were in a queen all our married life until we moved to this house eight years ago. We both love the additional space in the king, but I must say I like the idea of separate bedrooms (not just beds). I know that DH would feel that I was moving away from him on every level if I were to press for that. He traveled 100% of the time for 17 years, home only on weekends, and I got used to sleeping (well) alone. He’s always hated sleeping alone, but we have such different bed habits. I like the room ice cold and often need to sleep with no covers as he is the opposite and likes the room warm. He also snores occasionally, and I hate earplugs, so I will sleep on the couch or in the guest room if his snoring wakes me up. I go to bed early, he goes to bed late and often wakes me up when he gets in. I think both in habits and behaviors we are excellent candidates for separate quarters, but I don’t think he could handle what such a move would represent to him emotionally.
The therapist that they quote is one of those “relationship gurus” who, in their attempts at popularizing their “brand” will forget the basic rules of how couple should behave. Her entire philosophy is that couples should always have more sex. Having couples sleep in separate rooms probably gets in the way of many of her methods. The fact that so many couples are happy with this makes it even more difficult for her.
However, she does have at least enough intellectual and professional integrity to do no more than call it “a pink flag”. Way too many other “celebrity psychologists” are much more willing to knowingly provide opinions which they know are wrong, but which will help them sell their merch. They would probably be ranting about how sleeping in separate rooms will destroy any loving marriage.
And then there’s dhs cousin who’s been with her guy for 30-40 maybe? And at least the first 25 were spent in side by side houses! They liked having their own space and doing their own thing, even though they loved each other. About 10 years ago, they moved to a different state and bought a house. They share a single house now but separate rooms.
My folks gave us a wedding gift of money for a king size bed. They had had a queen and over time, it just got small. I’m so grateful they did! I may do the same for my kids. The sleep is so much better in a king size. Even if he does snore. I just buy jumbo boxes of earplugs from Amazon.
I’m OK with the sound of rain (get plenty of that here! ) and the ocean (when we are in Hawaii!) but mechanical white noise drives me nuts. I can’t stop thinking about that noise making thing, like a fan, breaking, and it keeps me awake!
I worked night shift for 22 years and got used to having my space and not caring that I snore. When I moved to day shift, one night I turned over in bed and accidentally gave my husband a black eye. We have slept in separate rooms ever since and get 2 queens in a hotel. Our 35 year marriage is stronger because of this arrangement.
Well DH and I are clearly the anomaly here. We’ve been married over 30 years and we have always slept in a double bed. Full disclosure - neither of us is very tall or large, so that helps.
When we travel, I hate it when I can only get a king at a hotel. A queen is fine, but we are always happy to get home to our double bed. It fits us and we have no plans to get a larger bed.
In our house, queen bed, whom ever is the first up to use the bathroom in the night, moves to the other room. We both worry about thrashing around trying to get back to sleep. It also helps that the bed in the other bedroom is real comfy. Having another room has worked out great this week as my dh finally came down with Covid.
The next time we went to Sweden, we came prepared and brought zip ties. 
I just buy jumbo boxes of earplugs from Amazon.