I don’t think it’s elitist OR counterproductive. But people read and absorb what they want to read/hear/absorb sometimes.
I’ve asked people who post here with a financial dilemma “let’s first talk about your overall situation- how old are the breadwinners/how close to retirement, do you have life insurance, do you have a 401K or an IRA” and I’ve been shot down with “that’s none of your business”. Well- what worked for ME in terms of financing college had EVERYTHING to do with my age, health, retirement plan, etc. There are risks that a 50 year old parent can take that a 62 year old parent cannot; there are assets that a 48 year old, married parent can liquidate for college that a 60 year old single mom cannot.
I’m not being judgey- just realistic.
Yes- I was full pay, and yes, it was “worth it”. Primarily because I had kids young, had a solid career (had to forgo the lengthy maternity leaves, years of dialing it back professionally, turning down jobs which involved travel, which many of my friends and colleagues took advantage of) and was married to the other parent of my kids- who felt the same way I did about college and funding. So the “risks” I took financially were all lifestyle risks- living frugally, but never going without life insurance, health insurance. Cutting vacations? We didn’t mind. Cutting our own lawn? No problem. Cutting back on contributions to retirement? Yes, modestly, for some years- but not raiding the principal.
People here rant and rave that only the rich and the poor can go to XYZ colleges and that’s not true in my experience- if you are very, very lucky health and career-wise, and don’t have five kids, it’s possible to make it work without being rich. (I know, that makes me an elitist). If folks here feel that I’m being a hypocrite by telling some kids and parents not to go into debt- then stop reading. I’ve posted that both my spouse and I had our own educational debt which was a great thing for us (I tripled my salary the day I graduated with an MBA). Didn’t work for everyone- I’ve got contemporaries whose debt was crippling, because it prepared them for careers they discovered they hated, so taking a much lower paying job WITH the high end loans was a terrible combination.
The bottom line- it depends. But people don’t want to hear that- they love unicorns and rainbows and the financial aid fairy to show up and make their problems go away.
I’m enough of an elitist to think that attending Binghamton with the federal student loan is a better deal in most cases than the free ride to the third tier college that no employer in NY has ever heard of. That doesn’t mean I’d tell parents to take out a HELOC for Binghamton, or tell a kid that their life is over if they have to take the free ride.