I want to transfer back to my old university... Any advice?

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Alright so for context, I’m a junior. 4 years would’ve been 2018 to 2022. But now it’s looking like 2018 to 2023/24 if I transfer back.

Let’s use school A and school B. School A is away from home, and School B is home.

I originally went to School A from the fall of 2018 to the fall of 2019 loved it, excelled in my classes, had a great community, I also loved the courses I was taking in my major.

Fast forward a couple of months after the spring of 2019 - I got into a long distance relationship with an old friend who moved and made one of the biggest regrets. I transferred back home to School B for the sole reason of being there if she ever visits. (yes, very stupid, I know. I know I made the wrong decision to transfer to School B).

We broke up; still very good friends, I don’t like being home at all. I feel miserable now. I don’t think I’ve ever been this miserable in my life before. I’m doing not as good as I would like to in my classes, and School B doesn’t offer my desired major - something that I miss the most. I’ve been in school B since the spring of 2020 to now. I’ve waited it out and I think I’m done.

I’ve talked to school A. They said I can come back if I re-applied for the Spring of 2021 basically. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve made some solid friends here at School B, but my main purpose of going back to school A is not because of friends, but because of how happy I used to be in the learning environment and the classes. I’m not too worried about spending an extra year and a half to be honest.

I just don’t want to make anymore rash decisions like what I stated earlier about my previous long distance relationship. I don’t know if I should just grind it out here at School B… or to go back to School A… Does anyone have any advice? I feel as if this is so sacrilegious to do this. Thanks in advance. Sorry that this is long.

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After being here for 2 semesters. I finally came to the conclusion that it’s not the right fit for me. I just don’t know what to do.

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First thing that comes to mind as a parent is- how will you pay for an extra year and a half of college?

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My parents don’t want me to chime in any money or have a job as I should focus on school and are willing to pay for it all; even if I was to go into grad school.

Obviously I will prioritize paying them back when I’m finished since they don’t want me to pay.

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Sounds like transferring back is possible affordable, and preferable academically so go for it. Just recognize that you may have to work hard to reintegrate yourself socially.

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“School B doesn’t offer my desired major”

This is huge. It sounds like you can return to School A, your parents can afford to pay for it, and School A is likely to accept you back.

I think that this is a no-brainer. You should transfer back IMHO.

Life is not a race. The very successful people I know have in almost every case taken something quite a bit longer than the shortest possible path to get to wherever they ended up (sort of like this sentence). I do not see any harm in transferring back to School A.

I would at a minimum send in your application well before the deadline.