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<p>You guys need to understand that a lot of times people are just curious - they are most likely going to forget where you’re going twenty minutes after they ask. Why should you feel embarrassed or avoid it? People are likely going to make a big deal out of where you’re going no matter what university you tell them just to be polite. People’s reactions, positive or negative, don’t mean crap if you like your college. Just take their responses as hot air and they won’t get to you anymore.</p>
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<p>Dude, you just don’t get it at all and it shows throughout your posts in this thread. It’s not about how they or you would feel 20 minutes later. It’s aboutthe rush of embarrasment/awkwardness you get at that particular moment and it is sometimes a bit much for some people to handle.</p>
<p>Yeah, my point is that reaction is either insincere or otherwise meaningless. If the embarrassment of telling someone what college you’re going to is “too much to handle,” you might have a problem.</p>
<p>I don’t see why there have been nine pages of discussion about this! They ask a question, you answer it casually, they respond in turn, and you steer the conversation towards another topic. Even between the most prestigious schools and the least, I can’t see too much of a discrepancy in how the question is answered. I suppose if I ended up at Harvard (dare to dream!) I’d do a little look-at-the-ground-and-appear-bashful thing before being like “Oh … Harvard …” but really, it is not a big deal. And if you know your school is good but the other party doesn’t - who cares? You should be going for an education, not a reputation.</p>
<p>I guess I’m just too conditioned to this sort of situation, since I’ve received rather impressive test scores and around here (and maybe everywhere) you’re judged as much by your SAT/ACT scores as the college you’ll be attending. It’s all about modesty even if you’re ridiculously proud of yourself, haha.</p>
<p>I don’t like modest people</p>
<p>I ran into a kid from high school that I had taken a class with back in the day…had no shame in telling me harvard and I could tell in the pitch of his voice that it had crossed his mind to tell me otherwise…I dont understand why.</p>
<p>I immediately thought okay it would be best to avoid the topic altogether since i can tell he doesnt like to talk about it…so I just say , o thats far…and ask him what he is up too around here.</p>
<p>seriously just spit it out</p>
<p>^ agreed. I don’t like people who brag about unimportant accomplishments, but overly modest people **** me off.</p>
<p>on a side note with modest people, i sit next to someone in class…we only know each other from this class.</p>
<p>this person pulls out their laptop (i already have mine out), their computer is crapping out and w/e cant go online, she mentions “darn now i cant check my so and so.”</p>
<p>my laptop is just sitting there idle so i offer to let her use it (I pick it up 1 in. off the table and make a handing motion)</p>
<p>but MODESTY takes over and , “no no really its okay i dont wanna bother”…Just annoying somehow,
anyway the person kept trying to fix laptops internet for 30 minutes next to me and frustrated because she cant check her thing.</p>
<p>i mean if someone offers you something then its actually not gonna bother them.</p>
<p>what I hate about modest people is that they feel guilty for their accomplishments. People should never feel guilty for success, its wrong and twisted to feel that way.</p>
<p>I should be surprised that there are people disparaging modesty, but I’m not.</p>
<p>People aren’t modest because they’re ashamed of their accomplishments, they’re modest because they know that not everybody needs to hear about them, and the fact that they don’t talk about them doesn’t make them less of accomplishments.</p>
<p>^ Well said.</p>
<p>Refusing to borrow someone’s laptop (which I agree would be sort of irritating) is a bit different from declining to brag about one’s accomplishments. If you don’t inject a <em>little</em> humility when talking about yourself, you could easily be taken for boastful and self-satisfied, and I would personally stay far away from people of that sort. Because, you know, they’re annoying.</p>
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<p>Yep. Doesn’t seem as though she’s trying to be modest here. Seems more as if she feels a little too good to borrow another person’s property.</p>
<p>I live in the south, and the vast majority of the time no one knows what Wellesley (which, to my knowledge, is considered “prestigious”) is. It might be due simply to geography, but I actually find it disheartening to have to say “Oh, it’s a college in the Boston area.” It is rather nice to have someone actually recognize the name of the college that I am going to attend…</p>
<p>Yes, honestly I believe that the larger schools definitely have the upper hand in name recognition. After all, the larger the school, the more alumni the school will have that will let the world know where they received higher education from.</p>
<p>Nobody, I repeat NOBODY, in the state of Florida has heard of Dartmouth, so when people ask where my brother goes to school I usually just say “Dartmouth, it’s in New Hampshire” and then they can talk about skiing or it being cold or whatever. </p>
<p>One time, however, this old spanish teacher at school was like “Your brother… whashisname… where’s he go to school?”
I said Dartmouth in New Hampshire and she said “I KNOW WHERE DARTMOUTH IS” <em>sneer</em></p>
<p>You can’t win.</p>
<p>^^ you’d be surprised at the number of people who don’t know where princeton is. or any college for that matter.</p>
<p>“princeton where is that? iowa? california?”</p>
<p>Aye aye aye, that’s because most adults come from a time when not everybody was so uptight about getting into the schools with the big names and were more focused on getting a college education wherever they could. Meaning unlike some kids today, these people didn’t apply to 20 schools after investigating 3,000 of them. How can you possibly hold it against them that they don’t know where a freakin’ university is?</p>
<p>When getting this question, I usually just answer with the name of my school. But then the inevitable response is normally either </p>
<p>1) What happened to your football/basketball program? [joke about dramatic fall out of rankings over past few years/choke jobs]</p>
<p>2) Oh, you must be smart!</p>
<p>My question is how to deal with the second one. I don’t want to be an ******* and say something like “yeah, I’m a genius”, but at the same time I don’t want to go the other route and completely downplay it because I feel that seems like a joke that always ends up bad. How do you respond?</p>
<p>Really?!? Peopleeeee you need to learn how to take compliments! If people say something like “you’re so smart!” just shrug it off or give a semi-bashful/modest look, no words are even necessary. I guarantee they will stop short of bending over and kissing your ass.</p>
<p>It’s just a judgment call.</p>
<p>People who are overly modest can be just as annoying as people who brag too much. If someone’s being really modest towards me, it has the same effect: Someone is obviously trying too hard to relay a certain message to you. In this case, the message is more like “I need to water myself down so hard just to talk to you” as opposed to “I’m so great and you should praise me.”</p>
<p>There’s NOTHING wrong with telling people where you go to college, no matter where it may be. If it’s a good school and they don’t know about it, trying to force newfound notions of prestige down their throats will make you look arrogant. If someone DOES know about your school and praises you for it, just accept the compliment and leave it at that, just like any other.</p>