I watched that movie 4 hours ago…
I thought I was all alone in secretly wanting my DD to stay. I was so gung-ho originally and as my husband says, you are leading the BS process. But as we get closer I just keep thinking as I look at my DD, “what the heck am I doing?” After my My DD’s 8th grade formal, I just imagined how I would miss prom, or other schools events and It is agonizing. And I’m starting this process all over again with DD #2. We all are so very close. This is hard!
@soxmom I meant the physical every day closeness that some of the experienced parents upthread were speaking to (like @ChoatieMom) . I think folks are being as honest as possible in this thread, especially the ones that have already been through the BS separation, not being judgmental. Every family is different. My only point was to throw out there that if you can get the BS experience at home, that is a great option.
Congratulations on all the good news @GoatMama!
Now, back to advices and books on “How to Let go” =((
No kidding. She IS leaving.
@GoatMama Congratulation. You must share on the details thread for us to read and learn!
@GoatMama Congratulations! Outstanding outcomes!
Thank you. We are humbled and overwhelmed. It will take us some time to make a decision. In addition to full FA, two schools also offered generous 4-year scholarships that would cover Study Year Abroad programs/ international travel, summer and semester programs, private music lessons, SAT prep and test fees, stipend for personal expenses, laundry, and what not. I keep pinching myself. This is unreal.
Boarding school is completely overrated. Our kids belong home with us. Sigh.
signed,mom missing her baby
@GoatMama Take your time! All things being equal, my 2c is to choose Lawrenceville. Easier access with proximity to JFK and NYC, nice suburban setting, sold reputation for great academics… Of course, there’s is really no wrong choice here!
@GoatMama , that is wonderful news! My own suggestion FWIW is to choose the school that will be the best home for your daughter (whatever that means to you and to her). …And I’m with you, @dowzerw !
@twinsmama :-h
I haven’t been on the prep school boards for a while (my bs boy is now a college sophomore!!), but I couldn’t resist the call of March 10 and took a peek.
I had to jump in on this discussion from the perspective of a parent who has now officially done it both ways. Son 1 went to boarding school; son 2 did an exchange year abroad, then stayed home as a full-time PSEO student at our local CC (headed off to his bro’s college this fall!)
My take is that it really, really depends on the kid. My oldest is the ultra-independent minded type who chafed at home. I don’t think he would have done well at a supervision heavy boarding school either, but he thrived at Exeter. And we are really, really close–we still text and talk enough to make the helicopter parent police’s heads spin (if only they knew 
). When he’s home, he’s home–we all hang out and treasure that time together. He just needed to be on his own earlier than most kids do, and there are lots of kids who want to go to boarding school who are like him.
My second son, on the other hand, is also independent, but he’s an in-person kind of guy. He’s the kind of kid who has always liked to have one of us in the room while he does his homework, just to bounce his thoughts off of. He likes to hang out and watch basketball with his dad Physical presence matters. He probably would have done well as a day student at boarding school.
Anyway, yet another anecdotal example illustrating the constant b.s. parent refrain that every kid is different.