<p>Another way that schools could improve without spending any dough would be to add more time to discuss the do's and don't's of social interaction. This could be done during homeroom periods, miscellaneous open periods (i.e., those reserved for assemblies and other special events), or--ideally--right in the context of routine classroom discussions (e.g, when talking about a book that everyone is reading or a social problem that might crop up as part of the science or social studies curriculum).</p>
<p>My son, a 6th grader, is suddenly at the epicenter of a hormonal hurricane, with preteens texting at all hours (where are the parents?), chatting on IM, and "going out" (though they go nowhere and often don't even lay eyes on each other during the "going out" period since it may not exceed 24 hours).</p>
<p>I am constantly providing him with golden-rule-esque instructions as he navigates this adolescent maze, yet I am repeatedly appalled by the way that some of the kids treat each other (and which appears to be accepted as the norm). Many of these middle-schoolers seem clueless about basic courtesies, which I had learned by kindergarten (e.g., don't discuss a pending party in a group if not all are invited; don't openly distribute the invitations to said event on the school bus). Kids sometimes don't show up at parties they've said they'd attend while others unabashedly ask the host to add them to guest lists although they were not invited.</p>
<p>Arguably, social skills, manners, and, especially, consideration and compassion should be taught at home, but often, apparently, they are not. </p>
<p>Our school district offers Sex Ed starting in 4th grade, but, so far, it's been a wham-bam affair (so to speak ;) ) that lasts an hour or so once a year. There's also a D.A.R.E. program of longer duration in the elementary schools, but it focuses primarily on substance abuse and peer pressure, not enough on interaction, which is what I feel should be incorporated into the school day throughout the year, especially in middle school.</p>
<p>We read a lot on CC about students having horrific roommate problems when they get to college. While there is no magic bullet to eliminate all of these, I do feel that, if younger kids were more regularly schooled (in school!) about appropriate interactions, then the transition to college would be far smoother for most.</p>