My child was accepted to a fairly selective state university. She joined the GroupMe chat and it has evolved into a disaster of sexual conversations and memes that seem a bit too far. I am not naive and have seen texts and memes passed around in HS but these chats just mostly seem to bring up some pretty bad stuff. Any thoughts?
…just trying to understand how Admitted students feel about this and possibly admissions offices?
Admissions have been rescinded over this stuff. I think it was Syracuse a couple years ago? I think I remember something from an Ivy also but not sure. I’d get her out of that group.
^^ It was Harvard. https://www.thecrimson.com/article/2017/6/5/2021-offers-rescinded-memes/
She was in another GroupMe chat with Admitted students at a private school. That school took it down somehow bc of the content, although now I understand it is back up. How do most kids manage this…excited to be part of the college but the chats go from regular stuff to just disgusting.
Here is an example from Harvard.
https://www.thecrimson.com/article/2017/6/5/2021-offers-rescinded-memes/
Get her out of the group.
…She feels if she “leaves” the group it is worse than just staying silent. IDK.
…was hoping from some “pre-Frisch” input as how they handle these things.
frosh: )
If she stays in the group and remains silent, she is being complicit. It’s time to learn to stand up for what she thinks is right.
I dont see this as complicated at all. She will need to learn wisdom and discernment as she has these new experiences. Nothing to overthink - simply walk away.
…she knows it’s not right but also thinks “it’s just her generation”.
Students can always spin off a separate GroupMe chat on more a specific topic (housing choice, a major, sport or EC) and try to re-establish a culture on the chat of more productive and appropriate conversation. She could say, “Hey, anyone want to start a specific chat about PoliSci major? I have a lot of questions and am eager to hear what classes people are going to reg for!?”. Or something. (I may have just revealed my complete ignorance about how GroupMe chats work, but hey, I’m almost 50.)
“It’s just her generation “ - reread that a few times a see it for the complete nonsense it is. As a parent, I’d be happy she is talking to you about this, but concerned that she’s having so much trouble just doing the right thing here.
She was participating for awhile but it has now evolved to the point of being rescindable re racial memes etc It seems there are about 35 participants out of a group of nearly 500. She has removed at our request bc the latest posts are truly awful. But, having seen this going on on other college GroupMes it seems it’s somewhat prevelant.
…which makes me sad
I believe I remember a story about at orientation in an Ohio college, a student was tweeting about the presenter DURING the presentation, very negative stuff. His acceptance/enrollment was rescinded…and this was like the week before classes started so he was in a bind.
Glad that your daughter left the group. If it was 35 people “participating” in a group of 500, sounds like she wasn’t the only one concerned.
Hoping the 35 will have consequences, like a warning or something. Being disgusting should have consequences.
It seems like the parents are all on the same page. Wondering how the students feel?