Interfaith/Interratial Relationship

<p>I'd happily date a Jew, a Muslim, a Buddhist, or a Christian. It simply makes no difference to me. If someone's a good person, I don't care what they believe.</p>

<p>just curious how interfaith works for people who are actually religious</p>

<p>basically your own religion condemns your life partner to hell and vice versa</p>

<p>Yeah, interfaith never works out. I had an atheist dad and an agnostic mom. They were always fighting..."there is no God!" "...there might be!"</p>

<p>OK, I stole that joke from Sarah Silverman. But I think I just want to say that as cliche as it is, love overcomes all, even religion. Mostly though, it's not even a problem because if you're really, really religious, you generally only hang with similarly religious people. And no one's going to fight if one's a Baptist and one's a Methodist, hopefully?</p>

<p>and if the two people aren't religious, then it isn't a problem anyway.</p>

<p>"Interracial relationships make beautiful children. Especially the black/Asian combo... adorable babies!"</p>

<p>:)</p>

<p>^ A true product of my theory! :)</p>

<p>I went to college in an environment where interfaith, interracial dating occured a lot, much against the parents' beliefs. Some of my classmates ended up marrying outside of their faith, their race. Now 30 years later, we can see the results, and they are quite mixed.</p>

<p>In college, many kids are not really attached to their religion, and are often tired of observing it. They may stop going to service and not even observe the holy days. Many kids take a hiatus from their religion when they leave home. So the religion issue seems to be a non issue for many college kids. </p>

<p>The issue seems to resurface when the children come. Many families do come to a resolution, but for some, it becomes a sore point. I know a former classmate who had renounced his religion for years, but it bothers him to have a Christmas tree in the house, or to send his kids to a Catholic school, something that he would never have guessed as a young man. And his wife wants to go deeper into her faith and raise the children Catholic. It has become a thorny issue. </p>

<p>The interracial relationships seem to have worked well except when there was a sharp divide in cultural, socio-economic issues. But that is a problem even in same race marriages. When couples are not in agreement about cultural things, how to live the everyday, once the initial passion cloud lifts, there can be some real conflicts. I think most of the parents I know would have little objection in their children having a relationship with someone of a different race but similar background, but when they bring home someone who is of a totally different lifestyle, they have concerns. </p>

<p>My D is engaged to a young Jewish man, and we are a Catholic family. The religious differences are not as big of an issue to me as the different philosophies and outlooks on life, though the fiance at this point has been supportive of everything D wants. The family is a different story. They were not pleased at all, and some pretty nasty scenes resulted from this. They are finally accepting the match, at least on the surface. But every interaction with us has some conflict because they live a totally different life from us. They are very well to do, want the best of everything regardless of cost as they have not had to worry about cost. They have a disdain for those who do not live as they do. They are extremely status and name brand conscious. I believe the lifestyle is going to be more of an issue than the religion.</p>