<p>Well. What do you think?</p>
<p>Could it really work out?</p>
<p>Yes, I do know families who have made it work out, but they were all American born, or moved here at a very young age.
That's why I posted in this section. I figured most of you guys have actually lived in your home country for a significant amount of time.</p>
<p>My family friend is marrying a Canadian/Trinidadian guy and my aunt just married a Canadian guy. They all seem pretty happy to me. For me race doesn't really matter, love does not have a race to it or a culture. As long as you're happy with the person you're with then that is all that matters. It could work out as long as you love and care for that person for who they are. I never see colour/race/culture as a problem when I like somebody.</p>
<p>Is that a serious question?</p>
<p>LovesTHEarts, couldn't agree more with you.</p>
<p>It's a serious question. My bf is Indian, I'm Chinese. This is what I'm thinking--</p>
<p>If we end up getting married and have kids, what language are we supposed to teach the kids? What religion would we teach the kids? What kind of food are we supposed to eat? (We both grew up eating Indian/Chinese food. I can't stand to go two days without Chinese food.) What kind of name are we supposed to name our kids?
Maybe these aren't really vital, but enough of this trying to make a normal life and I'd burst.</p>
<p>My bf is Indian too and I'm white. I think that if two people of two different races marry, they should try and preserve the cultures of both parents as much as they can.</p>
<p>Me.duh, first learn to walk before you run. </p>
<p>Most of the answers to your questions come from my own upbringing.</p>
<p>Why not teach them both languages? It's not like being trilingual is bad. If I had kids I'd make them learn Vietnamese, English and French. </p>
<p>What religion are you supposed to teach your kids? My mom's side of the family is Roman Catholic, my dad's is Buddhist. I was baptized shortly after I was born but my mom converted to Buddhism after that. Solution: They didn't teach me any religion. They've brought me to Buddhist temples and I've attended Anglican churches in the past though. They just never bothered to pound religion into my head.</p>
<p>Food: Again, mix it up. My mom and dad share the cooking duties in the household, my mom cooks traditional Vietnamese food while my dad cooks Italian, Indian, Vietnamese and "Canadian" food. No problem here. By the way, my dad is Vietnamese as well. There's nothing wrong with eating non-Chinese/Indian food.</p>
<p>Names: Mix it up. I know a girl who's father is Vietnamese and mother is Polish. She has a Vietnamese middle and last name and a Polish first name. I have a Vietnamese name and my brother has a westernized name. </p>
<p>If people in Hicktown USA (your location) don't accept mixed kids, move. There are many places in the world where interracial marriages are not an issue.</p>
<p>ICrisis is absolutely correct -- I can tell you that Toronto, Canada is extremely multicultural, and accept interracial marriages very commonly.</p>
<p>Funny little Toronto story:
There's used to be an Indo-Chinese-Canadian (try and wrap your mind around the type of food they serve there) restaraunt around King St. I used to go to. The owners were a Chinese man and a Trinidadian lady of East Indian origin (slang term for that is coolie). The Chinese guy speaks fluent Mandarin, English and Punjabi (explain that one) and his wife speaks fluent English, Mandarin and Korean. Chinese guy is a total atheist and his wife is a agnostic but comes from a Christian family. They are as culturally different as you can get but their daughter is hot as hell.</p>
<p>And that folks is all that matters.</p>
<p>hahahaha at ICrisis's story! Believe me Toronto is very multicultural. Anyways me.duh you should teach your kids both languages and see which one they adapt to more. A biracial child has its advantages to learn both sides of their families' customs and beliefs and it is always the best experience. Teach them both cultures from both sides and you will grow them up well.</p>
<p>what if ur parents are totally racists?</p>
<p>positive: some parents expect their kids to marry authentic kids of the exact same race, i.e. korean parents might want their son married a korean-speaking lady who knows how to cook authentic korean food as well as performing the korean bow properly.</p>
<p>negative: such as my case: my non-american parents dread indians and believe blacks are disasters. I personally don't and I can only wish I don't fall in love with one of them. Not because of I dread them but I dread the battle with my family.</p>
<p>sorry if this hurts the topic starter.</p>
<p>vale: then learn korean! such things can be picked up</p>
<p>anyway, there's such a thing as indian-chinese cuisine.. justso you know. its kinda like chinese food, but puritians would baulk at calling it chinese cuisine. so no worries there haha. anyway, in all seriousness, interracials are gettingmore and more prevalent in today's globalized world. you shouldnt worry!</p>
<p>Vale:</p>
<p>My dad has a problem with Jews and my mom wants me to marry a nice Vietnamese girl. </p>
<p>My solution throughout high school was to never bring a girl home unless my parents were out of the house. Problem solved. </p>
<p>All kidding aside, you'll deal with it when the times come. I haven't fallen in love with a girl yet, and to be honest I've never really met one I'd be proud enough of to introduce to my family (I have bad taste in women when it comes to relationships) so I haven't had to deal with it. When the the time comes, I'll probably do the same thing I did when I told my parents I smoked weed.</p>
<p>"Mom, dad I do this on a regular basis. I'm also going to school and getting decent [but not awesome] grades and I'm staying out of trouble. Plus I have a part time job, an apartment I found myself and no debts. OK, later."</p>
<p>From what I've seen interracial relationships are a social norm, and not different from any other relationship.</p>
<p>My girlfriend's family are Chinese, and you know what?</p>
<p>The little differences are what make it fun. Oh, and two days without Chinese food makes you sad? Pfft. Try a year without the food you are accustomed to...wuss.</p>
<p>You'll make it work if you want to. Otherwise, don't fool yourself. A relationship is about give-and-take. Not about "me me me." If you can't handle the greater amount of give-and-take required to be in an interracial relationship, then just drop it now before it gets too serious.</p>
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The little differences are what make it fun. Oh, and two days without Chinese food makes you sad? Pfft. Try a year without the food you are accustomed to...wuss.
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A year? Try 9. We don't have ingredients here to make food taste thew ay it tastes in China. =(</p>
<p>And it's good to hear that most people really have no problem with interracial relationships.</p>
<p>My parents would probably try to kill me if I ever married a nonChinese person. -_-; I guess I'll just have to wait to figure it out then?
ICrisis, I loved that story about the couple in Toronto. :)</p>
<p>That sucks. Here in LA, you can get anything for any type of food, really...</p>
<p>Good luck!</p>
<p>to the op, seriously. dont worry. im chinese, my ex-boyfriend was korean-canadian and my brother is dating a korean now. these little differences are okay (:</p>
<p>I pretty much agree with the advice given so far that bringing multiple cultures into a relationship can ADD a lot to the relationship. The two possible gotchas are ... 1) parents; are you willing to possibly **** off your parents if they don't approve? ... 2) religion; this can be the really tough one ... if both of you are hard core about your religion and can only imagine bringing your kids up in your religion that can get pretty complicated.</p>
<p>Yeah, probably not a good idea to **** off the parents, since they're probably gonna end up paying for the wedding if we ever get that far. -_-;;;;;;;;</p>