Hi, all. I have an etiquette question about BS coaches. Can my daughter invite two coaches from two different schools to the same basketball game? I would rather not, and seems like a rude thing to do.
My daughter is playing in two games next Saturday. I am happy that both coaches said they potentially want to see her play that day. Should she tell one coach about one game, and one coach about the other game? Or should she tell each coach there are two games, which gives them more options and increases the chance they can fit her into their schedules.
Thanks! I am new to this and not sure how to handle it. 
I wouldn’t invite both coaches to the same game. Last year, when we did school tours, we scheduled back-to-back meetings with two coaches at the game their teams were playing against each other. We thought that logistically it would make sense to talk to both of them. Bad idea. It was extremely awkward and not a good experience. It felt like interviewing with an AO from one school while the AO from the other school is watching.
Two coaches offered to come watch one of my daughter’s basketball games but we declined since it seemed like an unreasonable effort for them to make and in any case it would not likely determine the outcome of the selection process. However we did go see the two teams compete against each other which gave my daughter an insight into the level of play at both schools and into the coaches’ styles. She found a moment to discretely shake hands with each at 1/2 time and at the end of the game.
Why not let them both come? During live period in July they all sit next to each other talking with one another while recruiting the same kids. Understand coaches are looking at more than you at the game. High School games have multiple coaches at it.
Now if they’re coming to watch a workout then no.
As a recruit going to watch 2 schools play each other is fine, but home team is your only contact for that day.
If you feel a need, you could comment? Must be an off day, I’ve gotten a couple of coaches saying their coming to watch me. Best way to communicate with coaches honesty and upfront. They know the landscape of recruiting.
I suggest to invite both. I bet that both coaches probably even know each other. The fact that your daughter has the ability to attract two coaches only increases her desirability.
As long as your daughter doesn’t make any promises, having both coaches watch at the same time can only help.