<p>didn’t pay for grades, but did reward effort and grades with something special…sometimes a family dinner out, a mini shopping spree (daughter) or a coveted gift, (video game) depending on the accomplishment the reward was in line with its size. it created a culture of excitement about achievement, and a feeling that our family celebrated each others’ special moments. We also celebrate 1/2 birthdays (with half a cake) I always think there is enough stress in life…when there is something to be joyful about go for it…my three kids have thrived on this approach and as different as they are, they all have appreciated this approach</p>