<p>Im relieved to read that this could be viewed as a hypothetical, because there are so many things wrong IMO with the statement.</p>
<p>1- grades are a subjective determination of worth, and doesn’t necessarily have much to do with effort expended or value gained.</p>
<p>2- Im assuming that the subject is an older child , and it has been my experience that once you can’t physically pick them up- you really can’t * make them* do anything.</p>
<p>3- it is also assuming that the high grades are something that the parent wants not the child- which is backasswards.</p>
<p>It is the child who benefits from working hard and learning something, not the observer…</p>
<p>I didn’t use bribery with mykids- I believed in logical conseqences- although sometimes I did admit that they might need a little extra motivation to persist at a task.</p>
<p>For example- when my daughter changed schools from one that she had been attending since she was 3 to a completely different school away from her friends when she was 8, I bought her a beanie baby every week for a few months. Not that this really motivated her to change her perspective, but I hoped that it would show her, that I knew it was very difficult and I wanted to acknowledge that in a tangible way, because I also knew it would take time before she started to acclimate to the new school.</p>
<p>But I didn’t use treats sold at the counter to get them through the grocery store checkout line, and I didn’t give allowance for chores.
They received allowance so they would learn to manage money and to be able to make choices- but they did chores because that is part of living as a group.</p>
<p>Paying money for grades is meaningless. It might take one kid 50 hours studying for a test to get a B, but another 10 hours and they get an A.</p>
<p>But for example if you and your child both decide that a difficult stinky class, is the needed for their interest/grad reqs- they may have a hard time focusing on long term reward when it is far off- and need a little extra incentive to stick it through.
So paying for something that they want, like driving lessons or a new foil, could be reasonable depending on your own resources and how much motivation you gauge they actually need.
but handing over money- no.</p>