<p>Please try to read at least some of the following before judging me too harshly..thanks. </p>
<p>I'm currently a freshman at an Ivy League, studying to be a doctor. I doubt any of that matters since I'm sure I'd find myself in the same position no matter where I went to college. </p>
<p>Anyways, I hate college. I find myself happiest when I'm sitting at home and doing nothing. By nothing, I mean reading something, watching anime, watching movies, drawing, playing video games, etc etc. Additionally, I'm very unsocial. I don't think I'm mean or anything but I just don't like to put up a facade of being overly excited about stupid things like other people do. I hate that insincere sense of fake niceness people have. I had to imitate people and put on this impression for interviews and social recruitment events but it's just so fake that it sickens me.</p>
<p>I don't like what I'm studying. I don't like studying, period. I worked hard all throughout school because it was the only thing I was good at. Even now I have a 3.9 GPA. Not effortlessly, but through working my ass off. I hate working my ass off. I dislike living in a dorm. I just want to relax at home and not really do anything. A perfect job would be working at home from my computer.</p>
<p>I really really really want to drop out but my parents are first generation immigrants and it would just kill them. What should I do? I feel extremely depressed when I'm in college. I can "fit in" if I really worked at it but the thing is, I just want to be left alone. Any suggestions guys? Sorry this was so long.</p>
<p>Well no offense but it seems to me you’re just lazy and unmotivated. If being a doctor doesn’t interest you fine, you don’t have to be one. But, if your alternative is bumming around and living off government checks, that is NOT fine. There are enough of those around. </p>
<p>What you need to do is set a goal. What do you see yourself doing for a living that you can enjoy? Where do you see yourself in 5 years? 10? Do you want a family or kids? Work towards something that will make you happy and take steps to make that a reality.</p>
<p>You might want to consider going to the health services offices and discussing the possibly of Aspergers syndrome. It is a disorder which is on the autism spectrum but the people who are diagnosed are ususally high functioning and do very well academically but have some social issues. The positive side to aspergers is that certain professions which require great concentration and might be considered a bit isolating for some are the very things that people with aspergers enjoy. In a sence what might sound like a curse could also be a gift. Read about it first and see if any of it sounds familiar to you.</p>
<p>Some of what you say sounds like you might possibly be a bit depressed or at least disenfranchised…go speak to someone.</p>
<p>It just sounds like you are very, very burnt out from working your butt off in HS, then having to do it again, for the next 12 years, if you are going to be a doctor.</p>
<p>Are you going to med school because you want to be a doctor and help people, or because you want to make big bucks, or because someone in your family pressured you to be a doctor?</p>
<p>It might be time to sit back and think about what you want to do with your life. Since you aren’t that social, I would think that being a doctor would not be a good idea. If you like sciences, then maybe you could do research. Or, it sounds like you have an artistic side to you.</p>
<p>Have you taken the time to talk to someone in your counseling center? Your feelings are not uncommon and people there would be glad to talk to you and help you figure things out.</p>
<p>What do you wanna do with your life? Like, when you die, what do you want people at your funeral to remember you for? </p>
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<p>I think you’re not giving others enough credit. I (and some other people I know) generally have a cheerful disposition when talking to others because we actually are sincere and nice folks.</p>
<p>If you’re this burnt out now and you’re only a freshman, how are you going to be when you’re halfway through medical school? I’d also like to add that that would require a lot more studying than freshman year of undergrad. </p>
<p>Is there any way your school would let you take a gap year after you’ve started? You could use the year to stop studying and do something productive that doesn’t require schooling, like volunteering or working.</p>
<p>Not sure what the first two posters are thinking. There’s nothing wrong with you. You’re doing great. You’re just burnt out from the work. You should talk to your school about taking a year off, and see what policies your school has regarding.</p>
<p>Just make sure you get out and do something if you do take some time off. Sitting in your house for a year isn’t going to burn off the stress, and then you’ll just hate going back to school even more once the year is up. Try picking up a new hobby or learning an instrument. Something that will give you confidence and energy back.</p>
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He doesn’t have asperger’s and he isn’t burned out, but lacks motivation. In grade school, life is easy, you don’t know anything about the world, and your entire goal is plowing through to graduation and keeping your parents happy. But then you hit college and realise you can’t keep up the act forever.
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Your life is practically a mirror of mine and many, many others I’m sure. idk what to say… I wish we were like our parents. you just somehow have to find some sort of motivation. somehow make an effort to go out and walk into some life changing experience… come out completely changed and brainwashed to succeed your way through life.</p>
<p>“I had to imitate people and put on this impression for interviews and social recruitment events but it’s just so fake that it sickens me.”</p>
<p>I am not a doctor (don’t even play one on tv), but it was that comment that made me think Aspergers. Clearly there is also a lot of anger, I hope the OP will talk to someone at the school that can help</p>
<p>Yeah there’s alot of hate up in here I don’t know why. All I would say is make 100% sure that you dont want to do the whole college thing before you quit it, like if there’s something inside you that’s there that you’re ignoring, that might make you want to stay, I would stick through it to make sure. But, I can kind of tell what you’re parents are like. They’re like Indian parents who expect their kids to be doctors and *<strong><em>. I don’t know what you are in terms of ethnicity… but whatever I get it. If you don’t want to be a doctor though… don’t *</em></strong>ing be a doctor haha. **** doing anything you don’t want to do. I would say though if you want to just work on your computer from home, you should try to figure out like… what specifically you want to do on your computer. If you’re into computers though, don’t waste a second and switch your major to Comp Sci. I’m CS major, and guess what… I actually don’t really like CS… I can like tolerate it… but honestly the thought of me working in some lame ass like cubicle for eternity makes me feel like ehhh… is this what I want to do? Anyways, if you’re into anime and computers, for god sakes switch to CS… thats all there is in my class… ****in anime nerd heaven…</p>
<p>so yeah, stop being trying to be a doctor if you dont want to be… but on the other hand… Don’t sit at home bumming around… at least try to get a degree… just do it in something you like, or take a year off from school, that will help TONS, but make sure you get a job in between cause that **** will make you lazy and ****ing depressed if you’re not busy in anyway</p>
<p>If you don’t like what you are studying try to find a major that suits your interests or hobbies. If your parents really want you to become a doctor you can talk to them. But try changing majors if you really don’t like what you’re doing right now.</p>