<p>My family has pretty high expectations of me. I started falling a part towards the end of my junior year because of personal circumstances, which consequently led to all the UC rejections I’m currently recieving. Sigh. I came across this quote earlier that made me feel better, though. “To allow other people’s assessment of you to determine your own self-assessment is a very big mistake.” We gotta prove 'em wrong! ;)</p>
<p>@syltutu: This is like being in a relationship for 4 years (high school) and finding out you’re not getting married (admitted into college), and choosing other people over you.</p>
<p>@syltutu: The college that you attend will NOT define your potential! For example, my father was never able to complete college, and he has been wildly beyond successful.</p>
<p>@trancelation: Awesome metaphor! I’m afraid I’m not getting married anytime, soon with that “person.”</p>
<p>Thanks! But, don’t lose hope, @syltutu! :)</p>
<p>@RiverCatDad: Unfortunately, getting into certain colleges identify my potential to my family. My uncles and aunts judge by this standard and they’re a great influence toward my parents. My parents are not really involved or informed about me in general, so I guess I work my butt off for years to get into UC(SD) to get that positive attention from them. It hurts like crazy when your good just isn’t good enough and all of that extra work goes a waste. I know a lot of people here get what I mean when I say “it hurts” and it helps to know that I’m not the only one.</p>
<p>@trancelation: You, too!! I just joined and it’s nice to be around such a friendly community. I’m not being judged and I’m getting the support that I haven’t able to get lately. Thanks and good luck!</p>
<p>@syltutu: Same here! I can’t share or vent all the anxiety I feel to any of my friends because they don’t really have anything to worry about as far as decisions go, if you know what I mean. I tried venting to my dad about it, but he just made me feel worse. Glad that I came across collegeconfidential. I want to high-five whoever made this site! :)</p>
<p>@syltutu and trancelation: Don’t sweat it, I’m sure that however it works out that they’ll express their love and appreciation for you. My son is a genius, but hasn’t worked as hard as most of you, and though a few years ago I had high expectations for him, like UCB, Stanford, UMich, etc, he has developed many interests beyond school, and his grades do not live up to his capabilities. However, even though I have, at times, expressed disappointment in his GPA, I am beyond proud of him, and the well-rounded young man that he has become. Unless UCD accepts him tomorrow, he’ll attend UCSB or Cal Poly SLO, and I’ll be his biggest supporter. I’m quite sure that your families feel the same way, and that much of the perceived disappointment is really their way of letting you know that they know how smart and capable you are. Sometimes, it’s very hard to communicate effectively with teenagers, as you guys are stubborn! 
Trust me, they love you, they are very, very proud of you, and it’ll only grow as time goes on!
Good luck tomorrow, we all need it!</p>
<p>Ahh, it feels good to get all of that out of my system before tomorrow because it has been bottled up for quite a long time. Thank you all for being here to support each and everyone of us here. Whatever happens tomorrow, I would love to hear the final decision and what you have to say about it. Hopefully, I’m strong enough to not start weeping for hours like I did earlier this week.</p>
<p>@RiverCatDad: Thank you so much! You sound like a great, dad, and being supportive of your kids really, really helps. Make sure you let your son know, and good luck to him! :)</p>
<p>@syltutu: I’ll share my admission decision tomorrow, whatever it may be. We’ll all be here! don’t be too hard on yourself. Good luck again!</p>
<p>Awkward… now that decisions are out. Hahaha =)</p>
<p>I just checked out my admission from Davis…and I got wait-listed. I really don’t know what to feel right now since it’s a half and half situation. I heard besides UCSB and UCD, the other schools did not take in any of the students on the list last year. I guess I should be happy that there’s a little drop of hope but it’s not so fun when you have to hold on to it until May 1st (and possibly get crushed all over again). It’s going to be difficult since you are supposed to make up your mind about what school you’re going to by that exact date. That means I have to put in my deposit, take tests, send scores to SDSU just in case (and all of this would be a waste of money if it turns out that Davis decides to keep me, which costs more money for me to go to). Anyways, I really shouldn’t complain now that I still have a second chance. Good luck to those who have not checked yet! We’re here to support you!</p>
<p>Rejected from Berkeley, of course. It doesn’t hurt when you know for a fact you won’t get in. At least, their letter isn’t insensitive like UCSD’s. They actually had someone to sign the thing.</p>