Have you applied to the regional OK State schools? Those seem to me that they would be a good bet.
CC may be the right thing for you…I think your teacher thinks you are capable of more…but CC is a good way to prove that you can do the work now. Then you transfer to a state U junior and senior years.
You DO NOT need to be on Free/Reduced lunch to get fee waivers. In fact, it’s stipulated quite clearly that any kid who had a guardian at any point after age 13 automatically qualifies. This would indeed lead me to believe your GC is not completely up to date.
Bookmark this, print one copy, bring it to your guidance counselor, have her sign it, and copy it as you need.
http://www.nacacnet.org/studentinfo/feewaiver/documents/applicationfeewaiver.pdf
Do you have an option NOT to graduate this year and graduate in 2016, perhaps thanks to your 504?
This would allow you to raise your GPA& test scores, have 3 full semesters (Fall 2014, Spring 2015, Fall 2015) of good grades showing that your GPA isn’t due to your lack of work ethics or intelligence but due to abuse and trauma, and thus that you’ve got tremendous potential, plus enroll in AVID/Trio/Upward bound (ask about those at your school), and apply to a better set of schools.
Berea College would be a good option to look into.
I agree with you that for a kid who’s grown up in traumatic circumstances, community college may not be the best choice. It may be the only choice depending on where you are academically and financially, but kids with trauma often “fall through the cracks” at CCs; being in a residential environment at a close-knit college is the best recipe for graduating from a 4-year college. The issue is that this is the best environment for your learning but the hardest to get to.
If you choose to go the CC-> 4year route, work right away with a transfer adviser and make sure you have a good support network if your relationship with your boyfriend falters (I know I sound pessimistic, but both of you are changing and growing into adults, so that may happen). Consider the CC your “full time job”, and spend time there in class, in clubs, going to office hours. If you can choose between several CCs, look at their transfer rates to OU.
There are also still schools that have deadlines in March or April! You may be able to apply to another safety.
If you take the CC route, you don’t have to commit to two years. If you do well, look to apply to a state U as a sophomore transfer student. From your posts, you seem to have great potential for success.
Ambriehl, Congratulations on dealing with everything you have and keeping your focus and charting your path. I have no doubt you will succeed. One small bit of advice, no matter where you end up, it is really up to you to make it work or not. I have suggested to both of my children that they make it a point of getting involved in their schools. Joining things that they think might interest them. Just try out different things. It will introduce you to a range of other students in different majors and make for a diverse and larger school community. Make it a point to visit all of your professors early in the term during office hours. It doesn’t have to be a problem that you are having it is more important to establish a connection, have a conversation about anything but it is an icebreaker and a way to begin developing a student/teacher relationship. Should a problem ever arrive it will be easier to meet this person and discuss it since you have developed this relationship. The students who I have known who have had a positive relationship with CC’s have all been more involved and committed to doing more then just driving up taking the class and driving home. You can make it work! Best of luck to you.
@intparent, that’s true for this year, of course, but it’s context for the OP – who can’t afford those schools anyway but doesn’t need to be selling herself short, even if circumstances mean she has to join the many smart, capable kids at community colleges. Besides, folks google for info who don’t happen to be the OP. I know that I do, and I end up reading old threads 
BTW, to be under the 25% percent mark just means it’s a reach. Some of the kids at those schools DO fit those stats, and it was a reach for them, and they got in. They had something else going for them – parents paying full freight? great recs and SATs? a specific major that made it a great fit? who knows? – but a reach isn’t a “forget about it” school unless you can’t manage it without aid that won’t be forthcoming. (Or, of course, if it isn’t truly a fit in other ways.)
I do not believe in giving students too much encouragement in applying to schools where they are under the 25% mark (meaning test scores under 25%) unless they are hooked. That is mostly who gets in when test scores are in that range. That is pretty much wasted time and money that could be put into finding matches and safeties. This student also is not full pay, so that won’t help. Plus, students at schools where they are in the bottom 25% coming in are certainly more likely to struggle academically and not graduate, or take longer to do so.
A friend of mine teaches at Emporia State University in Emporia, Kansas. I just checked their website and you actually barely miss the eligibility requirements for a scholarship - and your ACT score surpasses them, actually. So, you should have no problem being accepted. Furthermore, it’s a medium-sized school with only about +/- 5k students.
It is also very affordable - around 8k tuition for OOS students.
Here is their info about admissions. It appears you will be accepted with a 2.0, 21 ACT, and if you have the high-school class requirements.
http://www.emporia.edu/admissions/freshman.html
I would also look at other 2nd and 3rd tier “directional” colleges and universities in your state and others, i.e., NOT the main campus or “flagship”. Examples : Indiana State in Terre Haute, Iowa State in Ames Iowa, Western Illinois U in Macomb IL (that would be another good option for you, I think)… I’m only familiar with upper Midwest schools, but you get the idea. I’m sure there are similar ones in OK and nearby states. Again, the Kansas public universities look like they’re easy to get into. In fact, you may be near the top middle of the applicant pool.
Good luck!
http://cms.indstate.edu
Here is the website for Indiana State in Terre Haute, IN. They take applications until June 1.
Here is the link to Western Illinois U’s freshman admissions standards - looks like you’d be eligible for admission.
The tuition is based per credit hour, but 12 credit hours is about 5k per semester.
Deadline for applying is May 15.
http://www.wiu.edu/student_services/undergraduate_admissions/prospective/index.php
There must be many other schools that are also still taking applications, or have rolling admissions that fit your academic profile. Best of luck to you!
I agree with your counselor, that with your ACT score, you are probably ready for 4-year college academics.
@BeeDAre Emporia State OOS tuition is $8948 per semester (not year).
Ok, sorry’ bout that and thanks for the correction! - I thought it was awfully cheap!
Even so, it’s a lot cheaper than many others’ OOS tuition, so there’s that.
Ah, sorry for being gone for awhile. I think its a good idea to bring you guys up to date on what is going on. A few weeks ago, situations made it impossible for me to live in Oklahoma, so I moved up to Indiana with my boyfriend since he has a much better support system here and we can get back on our feet.
Anyway, I transferred high schools (with only 2 months left! its crazy). The school is much bigger (at least 10x population wise) than my old one. The good news is that the counselor has been extremely helpful. I’m on Free and Reduced lunches, just got a fee waiver for the SAT, and requests for fee waivers for college applications!
So as it stands, I haven’t been accepted anywhere, but since I have some fee waivers now I’d like to apply to schools that arent so much a reach.
Thats where I need you guys! I need names of some colleges who are still accepting applications, that I would be able to get into (2.78 GPA, 26 ACT), and that are preferably in: Indiana, Illinois, Washington, or Oklahoma (and maybe surrounding states). Any more help would be very appreciated! And I’d like to thank all of you for your kind words, they mean so much to me.
Edit: I also just finished applying to Indiana State University
Will you be considered a resident of IN? How will you pay for school? An EFC of 0 gets you a Pell Grant (~$5700) and a $5500 loan.
@Erin’s Dad , Thats something I haven’t looked into, but I seriously doubt it considering I’ve only been up here for 2 weeks. A quick check says no
“For independent students, either they or their spouse must have been a state resident for at least a year before the first day of classes. Some states require two years of residency and self sufficiency for independent students (e.g., the old Bright-Line Test for independent student status). These states include Arizona and California. Some states may also have a minimum age requirement for independent students to qualify as in-state residents (e.g., 19, 21, 23, 24), but may allow legally emancipated minors to qualify is they satisfy the durational requirements.”
Honestly I’ll most likely be leaning on loans/Financial aid packages.
You might be better off starting with a gap year to get in-state rates, then start at a CC.
Can you not graduate high school, so you can be a supersenior, take advantage of your more stable environment, take the most advanced classes available at your new school (i assume, since it’s large, that its offerings would be better than the previous school you attended)? You could also work and take a gap year for the purpose of maximizing your financial aid award. Then you’d apply to college next year, a resident. 
Erin’s Dad and MYO are right … a gap year is looking smart. One risk you’d be taking if you start right into a CC (or state college), but paying OOS rates, is that it could seem that you moved to Indiana for school. That could conceivably make it hard for you to get residence later on. I’m not sure about that (not knowing Indiana rules), and in your circumstances you might manage an appeal, but it’s a consideration. Indiana State or some such will have specific Indiana residency requirements on their web pages.
Anyway, a gap year for work could be a “win” all around – financially, time to do ACT or SAT prep and up your scores, time to research schools, time to get on your feet and get familiar with Indiana. Lots of good options in Indiana and vicinity, both public and private. Yay for the supportive guidance counselor, that’ll help a lot! I hope being in Indiana works out for you!