<p>Well, I go to Amherst College, Im a freshman (so im probably making this decision way to early, but i have till april to accept). I like it here. However, I really really miss my girlfriend, and I cannot have fun here, I want to transfer to be to a school with her (she currently goes to Vandy, and feels the same way). Basically, easiest situation would be for me to go to vanderbilt next year, as she is an engineer, and lets face it, she probably wont get into Amherst College anyways - transfer stats aren't good at all.</p>
<p>My high school stats are good</p>
<p>3.83 unweighted 4.67 weighted
top 10 percent
verbal: 710
math: 740
writing: 610
good extra curriculars
400+ hours of community service
etc.</p>
<p>now as for my college grades, I do not yet know, but I think I can pull a 3.5-3.7 (will that do, or do I need to work harder)</p>
<p>What are my chances at Vandy, most importantly?
what other schools should I apply to that (my gf - not top 10% but close, sameish SAT, should have good college grades) have good engineering, and a good econ or even business program for me?</p>
<p>You're not an idiot. Who would wanna be away from their girlfriend? Best bet would be for both you to pick about 3 schools that you both agree on, and then apply as transfers to all 3. Chances are, you would both get into at least 1 of the 3. I will post a list of schools to choose from later...good engineering programs..and good econ or business...hmm...</p>
<p>well, i've been down this road before. Don't do it. Chances are you two will break up sometime and then you both will be at a school that wasn't your initial first choice. It's a losing idea totally. Just be really involved and try not to think about her much. Chances are there's a girl at amherst that is better suited for you anyway. Just go find her.</p>
<p>Believe me, I know how you feel! My bf and I are only 300 miles apart, but it's still rough. Penn, CMU + there are plenty of great schools in NYC with business OR Engineering...35 city blocks is A LOT easier to manage than hundreds of miles.</p>
<p>Boy in another state + girl in another state = breakup or transfer.</p>
<p>That's the easy way out bud. But it may be wrong. So read on...</p>
<p>Just because you both go to different colleges doesn't mean you should break up or transfer. Just try your very best to communicate everyday. I know some couples who've been having a long distance relationship and they're doing fine.</p>
<p>My cousin lasted 3 years in New York while his girlfriend is in Hong Kong trying to get the whatever documents to come. They lasted 3 years seeing each other only for couple of weeks during 1 summer when he flew to see her and now they finally got past the period and are now living together. I'm just saying, your situation is better and this can be a good test to see if your love is real or just about the heat. And remember, a lot of colleges last only 7 months with so many breaks in between. If you can last past 1 year to transfer, I'm sure you guys can work your way out. Buy a webcam, talk to her on the phone more. A LOT of people are doing it.</p>
<p>But otherwise I like the NYC suggestion and note that not both of you have to be in NYC. I'm not too informed about colleges I did not apply to so I don't know where Amurst and Vanderbilt are. But you don't even need to be in the same city. Several pairs of my friends are seperated by a reasonable distance like Stony/NYC Cuny Honors, Columbia/Rutgers, Barnard/Rutgers, Wellesey/MIT. They spend many weekends together and it's working out. Think twice before you make your decision: it can be lifeturning.</p>
<p>Wellesley/MIT doesn't seem so long distance to me...</p>
<p>Speaking as a fellow Amherst student in a long distance relationship, don't transfer. Try to go to some events and club meetings and make friends, and maybe buy tickets to see your girlfriend over October break or something so you have something to look forward to. I assume you guys are from the same hometown and will see each other on school vacations?</p>
<p>Yeah MIT/Wellesley was a bad example. But I'm just saying you don't need to transfer to the same college, just two close ones and see each other in the weekends.</p>
<p>dude, coming from someone who was in a long term relationship and going to school for over a year, don't do it.</p>
<p>I know that you think that you're different, blah, blah, blah. Just realize that every single other guy thought the same thing until he walked in on her boning some other guy.</p>
<p>Honestly, if you guys are really that great for each other the distance won't be a an issue, use this as an opportunity to see just how well you two get along.</p>
<p>Stay where you are unless you see something you WANT out of Vandy, otherwise distance shouldn't affect a relationship with the one special person. My girlfriend goes to school at NYU and I am in Idaho...On that note I DO REALLY, REALLY want to transfer to NYU and am trying very hard. However, I became interested in the school long before she and I got together. I know that I cannot apply to transfer there because of her, it is not fair to myself, her or those who are paying my way. I have found something I truly want at the school (Gallatin and the city in general).</p>
<p>Do not leave Amherst for Vandy. Break-up. Have a week or even three weeks that are utterly dreary and then look on campus for women. I know a number of friends of mine who kept long-distance relationships and regretted it. It will become oppressive to one of the best times of your life. If you really do love this girl then you two can "unite" after you are done with college. From personal experience, long-distance relationships are a roller-coaster ride and usually not worth the strife. Take the pain now so you won't be weighted down in the future.</p>
<p>Don't do it ... for the love of god don't even waste your time. Either stick it out separate ways somehow, or do the most common/obvious - break it off. I'm a senior in college now and from high school going to college, the vast majority of my friends were in relationships. 1 of them has survived up to this point, each and every one of the dozen or so others has ended. People either realized that long term doesn't work in college or they found somebody better. </p>
<p>In line with the title of this thread, I wouldn't call you stupid ... just inexperienced.</p>