<p>I think it is great when a kid or family lets go of a school and gets excited enough about the choices that are on the table that they do not want to go back. That happened to us too. There was a chance that S would have gone to a school had it accepted him outright, but when he was waitlisted, he went right on ahead with the choices he had and was so invested, involved and happy about where he was going that it made no sense to him to about face and back track. He'd visited again onthe accepted student days with the intent of going, and had his visions. He was done with that phase and was moving on. It really had nothing to do with his ego.</p>
<p>I know that we have technically hijacked this thread, but I have to chime in...My D could not possibly get involved with her waitlists because she also was "waitlisted to a very good school .........and felt offended by it because in truth, the school was expensive and exclusive but lesser qualified got in for the wrong reasons."</p>
<p>Totally agree with her and the other posters on here (NewJerseymom, 2007mom, and cptofthehouse)....... it has nothing to do with "ego", but more in touch with reality.....if one is waitlisted at a school where lesser qualified were admitted, it becomes plainly obvious that there were other factors (agendas) at work which will not be eliminated during the waitlist-lifting process.....</p>
<p>I am not advocating stiffing the waitlist if the school is one the student really wants. However, I am totally for moving on with the choices without regard for the waitlist, if psychologically possible. I've seen some pretty sad kids hung up by the waitlist. Instead of revelling in what is, they are still hanging onto a hope that may not be.</p>
<p>Once you let them know you are going to stay on the waitlist, move on. Don't worry, check, etc. They will let you know if you get in. Enjoy your acceptances and prepare for your college. You will find if you do this, that getting off the waitlist is not such a big deal. You may well not want to go there, having discovered all the great things about the other college. Often kids have to go through a whole new mental process, even painfully to make the decision to go to a waitlist school. Puts things into perspective when you can be happy with the choices you have up front.</p>
<p>Haha being waitlisted to Duke was the best thing that could've happened to me back when I was applying to college. It just solidified the hate when I went to Carolina :-p</p>
<p>(I'm kidding)</p>
<p>(...Maybe)</p>