<p>Easily? You think this would be circulating around the office three years later because it was a quiet little exchange? She kicked, fought, and fussed to get that degree. She made secretaries’ lives hell. She was not nice about it. If she was, I would never have heard the grumblings.</p>
<p>I think we’re thinking along different lines of morality here. Your previous arguments were to the effect of “that analogy isn’t correct because your example is against the law, and this isn’t” (quote: ‘you have not broken any laws.’) I naturally assumed you were saying that the ethics of a decision rest on whether or not the action is legal, e.g. reasoning by Kohlberg’s second level, conventional morality. In my mind, the ROTC example captured the central idea of deceit that someone would commit by deliberately signing on to a PhD program with the intent of leaving midway to attend another school (and I must emphasize, again, that this was the OP’s hypothetical design. No change of heart–complete intent to remain in academia). And I think if you didn’t have it in your head that I’m a bad person to be defeated, you would see it too.</p>
<p>Now, as you say you really weren’t arguing about the thread’s topic at all, and really just defending some unknown person against moral condemnation (who, really, was only invoked as a scare tactic), I must assume that other aspects of your posts were meant to be at the fore and I just remembered the bits where you were birdwalking. Especially those attempts to argue via ethos, since we’re throwing Latin about here–focusing on completely unrelated criticisms like “I would pay a contractor much more than $30k” as an attempt to debunk an author instead of thinking about the central idea and replying in good faith. Then I start birdwalking too, and next thing you know people are being much too aggressive and the poor OP is left out of the conversation entirely.</p>
<p>I think we’re getting at the same thing, though you think it’s best to do so by saying there’s something wrong with my institution (which is okay, because I don’t like them that much either…especially the administrative offices. They can get kind of mean from the stress. That’s why I’m applying to library schools in Canada >.>): we both agree with hazelorb’s last paragraph. Basically, it rests on intent. If you mean to cheat someone, it’s bad. If you don’t mean to, but it turns out you can’t fulfill your goals by staying where you are, it’s not.</p>
<p>OP, if you haven’t been scared away by this forum yet, just choose a school that you’ll be happy with for the next five to seven years. If you’re not certain a PhD is for you, apply for a masters first. Actually, first do some research. If you’re asking basic questions like “would it take just as long in a different PhD program?” you probably aren’t that familiar with the way graduate school works. Read up, talk to advisers, talk to current grad students. I don’t know your academic level, but if it’s during or before undergrad, get into research before you take the leap. It’ll get you some good rec’s too ;)</p>
<p>And Kohlberg didn’t say anything about how people argue, though I think this entire discussion is somewhere around level two, category three (“good boy/bad boy”).</p>