<p>The feeling used to be that it helped a lot- if you apply ED.</p>
<p>I have several Cornell acquaintances whose kids went there.
Penn is another school that, when we visited, just out and said that it meant a lot (with ED).</p>
<p>But things just keep getting more and more competitive, and I imagine it gets tougher to keep accepting alumni kids at the same rate in the face of the ever-increasing pile of applicants.</p>
<p>I have a friend whose kid was accepted for a future year, or something like that. He's there now.</p>
<p>I have another friend who's an alum of another selective school, his kid applied last year. They rejected the kid, and then wrote him a letter intended to be responsive to alumni, but just made him feel worse: "we had so many qualified applicants..." (Him: just what are you implying about my kid, who I happen to think is also pretty darned qualified...)</p>
<p>As an alum, it makes you feel terrible if your kid is a reasonable candidate but doesn't get in. When you know so many others whose kids did get in. You start wondering" They're asking me for money all the time, and then this is what they do?"</p>
<p>With no real evidence, I pretty much felt both my kids would get in if they applied, but the thing is neither of them wanted to.</p>
<p>Which brings up the point I keep wondering about, given my experience with my own kids:</p>
<p>What are the odds that, out of all the colleges in this country, the school that happened to fit me the best, all those years ago, happens to fit my kid the best today? Given that we are completely different people, with different interests, coming from different places, and different life experiences?</p>
<p>That lightning bolt of aligned interests where legacy might work for my family has simply not happened.</p>
<p>FWIW, Princeton told me that legacy consideration extends to grad school, such as it is, but it doesn't count for much in any event there.</p>